official break up thread

[OkayOkay]

all totally justified, especially when you get in the long term relationship / fiance range. The game changes when you get serious time with someone. I'm talking about casual, shorter term relationships. To cameron- , I've definitely been there. Divorced after a 10 year relationship, dated extensively before that, dating now. I've been through all types of conceivable relationships. Felt total and utter devastation and loss, and that super elated high. As I've gotten older (30 now) I think I've mellowed out and rationalized a bit better than I had before, and realized that it's only as big of a deal as I make it.

[philosophiliac]

obviously, long term / commitment and what not is a game changer, but then again so is a bunch of other stuff. if it's a relationship with a super messy breakup or some really powerful feelings then of course it's still going to be difficult to stand back and think rationally about it, no matter the duration.

but yeah, game changers notwithstanding, I agree with the fact that if you're just dating within your friendship group and it doesn't work out, you should be able to leave things aside and retain some (semi-awkward) normalcy. obv things between the two of you will never be quite the same but in a group setting it should be ok-ish as long as you don't wallow in the breakup.

[funkdoobi]

every woman but my mother is a lying, cheating, piece of shit whore.

[gramps]

Your mom has her faults. She raises shitty kids.

[funkdoobi]

Your mom has her faults. She raises shitty kids.

if you wanna rumble, we can handle this shit, pussyhole. let me know. i'll fit you into my schedule.

[chromesquared]

Your mom has her faults. She raises shitty kids.

if you wanna rumble, we can handle this shit, pussyhole. let me know. i'll fit you into my schedule.

[michaelttizzle]

this is the first time I stayed up late with nothing to do since i stopped talking to this girl. I miss having someone to talk to. I might just be bored.

[heyheyhey]

I am fucking never, ever dating anyone who I share a class with or work with. Nothing is worth this shit right now. How is it a girl who genuinely loved me now wouldn't give a shit if I turned up dead.

The next 3 years of my course are going to be top fucking notch.

[gramps]

if you wanna rumble, we can handle this shit, pussyhole. let me know. i'll fit you into my schedule.

[broneck]

breakup advice thread:

don't listen to this song

[mr fluffernutter]

yo bropek that shit is festive

[sawyer]

man fuck this shit i am going crazy

goddamn

[boy better know]

man fuck this shit i am going crazy

goddamn

life goes on du

surround yourself with your homies and do something you like doing

don't be one of those guys that just locks himself in his room and listen to break up songs because that's just asking for even more pain

but i admit it it's not easy

[sawyer]

thanks bbk good advice, i know you are right its just gonna take some time

[Navigate Navigate]

truth is for my bruthas out there.

YOU ONLY EVER LOVE ONCE.

THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS SPENT RECOVERING.

im in this situation right now

[broneck]

hope that shit ain't true

[redX]

truth is for my bruthas out there.

YOU ONLY EVER LOVE ONCE.

THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS SPENT RECOVERING.

im in this situation right now

the one girl i thought i truly loved turned me down and i got over that.

girl that i'm with right now is the best thing that could happen to me hands down couldn't be without her

[mellowfellow]

truth is for my bruthas out there.

YOU ONLY EVER LOVE ONCE.

THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS SPENT RECOVERING.

im in this situation right now

you watch wong kar wai films?

Edited December 22, 2011 by mellowfellow

[OkayOkay]

truth is for my bruthas out there. YOU ONLY EVER LOVE ONCE. THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS SPENT RECOVERING. im in this situation right now

I can't say this is true. I don't think you get many chances at something real, and I think people tend to overestimate love or their feelings for people sometimes, but only really loving once? Nah.

[OCEANSECT]

i can't handle what my ex did to me or how she treats me

fuck dude i cut her out but it just hurts sometimes still

ugh fuck i'm breathing okay just breathing

[OCEANSECT]

ok fuck like i found out that even though we ended things amicably that she had been cheating on me for the last like... almost a year of our several year relationship and never told me.

she still calls me and tells me she loves me sometimes, tries to talk to me about our relationships problems, shit like that that makes me not want to talk to her but i still liked her whatever. fucking soft i know but whatever dude. i mean, like i still sleep around see other girls its not like i'm that hung up but idk i thought we had sort of some kind of like friendship or something.

i went to her house this morning got some things i left there and told her to never, ever call me again

she tried to get me to stay to talk about it and said she loved me and i just looked at her and said "seriously, don't ever call me" and walked off

fucking hate everything

[heyheyhey]

My flatmate is having an early Christmas dinner with just his gf in our place since they wont see each other on the day. They're both good friends and I love them, but fuck it makes me depressed.

Its been more than two months. Not sure if I miss her any more or just miss our relationship. Its a really weird feeling.

[gettoasty]

A lot of people probably end up missing the relation than the real person they shared it with. You can see if you found closure by seeing the ex one more time. Randomly show up. If you catch feelings, you're not ready

At least that is what I did after 5months...showed up half drunk/half high (coffee) and realized I may have got over her, catching up and talking about what we're doing in life now.

Real talk, if you read through these posts...you pretty much get the same "1,2,3, plan on how to get over your ex."

Get motivated with something else in life whether it be a job or going to the gym. It will make the process 110x easier and by no time you'll cherish the good memories shared, and start either feeling very independent and being able to stand on your 2 feet again, or miss being in a relationship, with another individual, not necessarily the ex. that is perfectly normal.

Once you are ready, you may even find yourself talking to other girls at the postalannex like normal

edit: I wish impolyt would chime in real quick, he posted some hilarious/true shit over on sf. something about being at a bar and watching porn

Edited December 23, 2011 by gettoasty

[boy better know]

A lot of people probably end up missing the relation than the real person they shared it with. You can see if you found closure by seeing the ex one more time. Randomly show up. If you catch feelings, you're not ready

At least that is what I did after 5months...showed up half drunk/half high (coffee) and realized I may have got over her, catching up and talking about what we're doing in life now.

Real talk, if you read through these posts...you pretty much get the same "1,2,3, plan on how to get over your ex."

Get motivated with something else in life whether it be a job or going to the gym. It will make the process 110x easier and by no time you'll cherish the good memories shared, and start either feeling very independent and being able to stand on your 2 feet again, or miss being in a relationship, with another individual, not necessarily the ex. that is perfectly normal.

Once you are ready, you may even find yourself talking to other girls at the postalannex like normal

this

i think what actually hurts dus the most is not the break up itself but the fact that girls bounce back and move on to the next one far quicker than guys

so bruh if you're heartbroken read this: just live your life, reaffirm your need to live, if you wanna dwell on old feelings and memories that's fine but know that is pretty much sadistic and it will get you nowhere

the cost of opportunity of 1 girl is 20,000 new girls

[heyheyhey]

Having to see her in class and with mutual friends made it harder. We're on Christmas break now though so 3 weeks without seeing her will help. I miss the relationship, having that sharing thing going on, the sex, all that good stuff.

But you're right, I need to live my life for me. I can't just hang onto what I used to have. I need a hobby.

(And thank fuck for good friends helping me get this far. seriously wouldn't be where I am without friends picking me up)

[OkayOkay]

ok fuck like i found out that even though we ended things amicably that she had been cheating on me for the last like... almost a year of our several year relationship and never told me.

she still calls me and tells me she loves me sometimes, tries to talk to me about our relationships problems, shit like that that makes me not want to talk to her but i still liked her whatever. fucking soft i know but whatever dude. i mean, like i still sleep around see other girls its not like i'm that hung up but idk i thought we had sort of some kind of like friendship or something.

i went to her house this morning got some things i left there and told her to never, ever call me again

she tried to get me to stay to talk about it and said she loved me and i just looked at her and said "seriously, don't ever call me" and walked off

fucking hate everything

Yo, sorry to hear man. You're 100% right in cutting her off permanently. I've never cheated on anyone, never plan to, and for me, that's the end-all-be-all, you don't come back from that. for me, it doesn't matter how much you love someone...they could be the one, fuck it, they fool around and it's done. Someone who cheats will continue to, regardless of what they say. there's just a defect in their psyche that lets them justify it as ok somehow. I'll never understand. You'll find someone else, and she'll help you recognize all the things your previous girl lacked, and she'll be honest and faithful, and you'll look back and be relieved you didn't commit more time or energy to someone that doesn't respect you on the same level you respect them. You're a better person than she'll ever be.

[OCEANSECT]

^she left a message on my phone just deleted that didn't read it

made her an xmas present me (and maybe two friends?) gonna burn it later... not for hate just for erasure

we were going to see the nutcracker (i've never seen it okay) but i saw it with my dad instead... lol, still wanted to see it didn't want to waste the ticket didn't really feel like asking one of the homies to go (though they probably would have i guess). it was pretty cool. saw it in sf.

edit: its probably for the best, i mean, it was always something with us, some drama. but yeah i mean, i still wish it had ended differently... or rather, i wish it had ended how i thought it had in the first place, and i didn't later learn what had really happened... or rather, i'm glad i learned what had happened, but i wish that it just hadn't.

whatever idk asdfasdfasdf

Edited December 25, 2011 by OCEANSECT

[Navigate Navigate]

gawd i hate my life and i just wanna die - dir en grey

[baizilla]

well, you are not alone. i feel you, man.

[clover]

just broke up w my girl of 4 yrs

hello drugs and alcohol for the next few months