Djrajio Dating Thread/Advice Column

[exhaust fumes]

i met up with a friend of a friend and got some great feedback on coffee meets bagel. gives me hope. 

 

Coffee meets Bagel is where you go when you're too frumpy for tinder.

[po_boy_fuuma_hatesbargerz]

Coffee meets Bagel is where you go when you don't want STDs and/or crazy fucks.

 

aka when you get older.

[exhaust fumes]

aka when you get older.

IDK what Coffee Meets Bagel is serving up for you where you live, but here in NYC it's basically the most "really serious about their career" Christian Asian women you can get that aren't really uh.. working for me. I'm sure they're all wonderfully nice women and I really hope the best for them, but after giving a few slightly more promising women a chance, I don't think the service really delivers that great. That and it's deathly slow.

I've had met much more interesting people on other services (OkCupid mostly).

At least Bumble gives you korny white girls almost 24/7. Go Florida State University!

[Fuuma]

not saying it's right, but schad's right. when you swipe based on a headshot & and someone shows up "internet approved" it may illicit a "huh, wha?"

 

Isn't the american king of hookups dressed like an emo victorian wizard?

[SSchadenfreude]

Isn't the american king of hookups dressed like an emo victorian wizard?

r u giving a shout out to mystery?

[SSchadenfreude]

 

 

we were talking about yoga. but then asked 'what do you think of the way you dress?'

i said it would be uninteresting of me to talk about how i dressed so i asked what she thought of it.

she said, 'i think you have good posture and that what you wear makes me think of you as a calm and collected person'.

 

she wore a black t-shirt, those summery ethnic printed full-length skirts and sandals.

was her analysis of the way you dress accurate or at least satisfying in yr opinion?  

 

um did u smash yet?

[exhaust fumes]

r u giving a shout out to mystery?

 

imagine being a lady and seeing that face zoom in to yours to kiss you and then that fuzzy had hits your forehead and the goggles fall off.

[CHINESEGOLD]

secret to unlimited poon is kino +negging tbh

[howl]

was her analysis of the way you dress accurate or at least satisfying in yr opinion?  

 

um did u smash yet?

 

i took it as a compliment. and no, my mind hasn't thought about that anyway.

[SSchadenfreude]

i took it as a compliment. and no, my mind hasn't thought about that anyway.

lulz

[boy better know]

secret to unlimited poon is kino +negging tbh

 

"I got coke at my place."

 

"I live two blocks away."

Edited March 12, 2016 by boy better know

[Champion champs]

The last five consecutive women with whom I have gone on a date have revealed to me that they have boyfriends, either just prior to, or during the first (and last) date. And I checked the stories out; it's true. What the fuck is going on here?

[exhaust fumes]

The last five consecutive women with whom I have gone on a date have revealed to me that they have boyfriends, either just prior to, or during the first (and last) date. And I checked the stories out; it's true. What the fuck is going on here?

 

Testing the waters for something new.

[Champion champs]

Testing the waters for something new.

 

 

Damn, if you've got a lame dude, just leave him!

That said, I'm not that keen on seeing someone who's going to be creeping behind my back. 

[Dr. Dog]

imagine bein a lady and the first thing that u feel when ur kissed is the fuzz from his soul patch

 

imagine bein a lady and feeling an immense sense of dread

 

imagine bein a lady

Edited March 20, 2016 by Dr. Dog

[uhhuh69]

imagine bein a lady and the first thing that u feel when ur kissed is the fuzz from his soul patch

 

imagine bein a lady and feeling an immense sense of dread

 

imagine bein a lady

 

i can only imagine being your lady 

[conqueror]

 

we were talking about yoga. but then asked 'what do you think of the way you dress?'

i said it would be uninteresting of me to talk about how i dressed so i asked what she thought of it.

she said, 'i think you have good posture and that what you wear makes me think of you as a calm and collected person'.

 

she wore a black t-shirt, those summery ethnic printed full-length skirts and sandals.

 

 

i hope you were striking this exact pose when you were waiting for her to show up.

 

[aslittleaspossible]

motnh late to the party

[ProfMonnitoff]

The last five consecutive women with whom I have gone on a date have revealed to me that they have boyfriends, either just prior to, or during the first (and last) date. And I checked the stories out; it's true. What the fuck is going on here?

 

stay away

[e0d9n0b5]

howl i'm not gonna post the shit you wrote on tumblr about your last tinder girl, but honestly it was very fucking cringe inducing, and you need to take a step back and really think about how you present yourself to these women. you're acting like every single interaction is as important to them as it seems to be to you. this will never be true. you need to learn the appropriate level of contact.

[CASSAVA PIECE]

just post it

[Fycus]

tbh im not much for internet bullying, im sure howls a nice guy. and who hasn't scoped a chick's facebook profile or something after you  got a name or whatever. i do think the thinking aloud and then relaying it to a complete stranger is a recipe for disaster. 

 

 

Edited March 23, 2016 by Fycus

[SSchadenfreude]

Loled. Howl, u had better call mystery or the matador

[CHINESEGOLD]

[conqueror]

“today, i added her on ICQ. and i can’t make much of her profile - it says ‘no suprises.’ which is as vague as it sounds. it says she’s a sales assistant at an independent video game retailer, they carry some import snk, squaresoft and a bunch of others.

here is what i had in mind as an opening message.

'i think we’ve crossed paths just where the EB games is, and i recall being taken by the fantastic legend of dragoon shirt (which makes sense now), generous breast proportions and great sense of 'eccentric' quirkiness you had as we walked our different ways'.

just really wanting to know of any person’s consensus about how they might construe it. my own wish is that it comes across as a genuinely honest observation that might be taken as a compliment as i can only think how heartwarming (to me) to have a person remember how you were on some particular day.

or am i miscalculating, and that this is a terrible idea (i mean this is why i’m horrible at chatting..)?"

 

me, aged 12, asking for advice on ign.

Edited March 23, 2016 by conqueror

[ProfMonnitoff]

generous breast proportions

[howl]

(paraphrasing) howl, the shit you wrote on tumblr about your last tinder girl, was very fucking cringe inducing...take a step back and really think about how you present yourself to these women. you're acting like every single interaction is as important to them as it seems to be to you. this will never be true. you need to learn the appropriate level of contact.

 

tbh im not much for internet bullying, im sure howls a nice guy. and who hasn't scoped a chick's facebook profile or something after you got a name or whatever. i do think the thinking aloud and then relaying it to a complete stranger is a recipe for disaster. 

 

yo, point taken.

 

it was just me being the only way i do know how to be, a bit too straightforward/candid (right word?). i guess that if i had wanted to be that candid or sincere, i should have manned up and said something when i ran into her initially. it was probably wrong to gauge a probable reaction by imagining how i would take it if someone had said something similar to me irl or on tinder - of course, i'd be thrilled. so you're right, i can't level that same expectation.

 

no doubt, its something i have to grasp. 

[SSchadenfreude]

tbh im not much for internet bullying, im sure howls a nice guy. and who hasn't scoped a chick's facebook profile or something after you  got a name or whatever. i do think the thinking aloud and then relaying it to a complete stranger is a recipe for disaster. 

thanks alot, fycus!  the edit just  just screwed up the context for everyone and has thus devalued many other members' posts! 

[howl]

i'm guessing fycus had posted the blog post e0d9 had referred to?

[Fycus]

thanks alot, fycus!  the edit just  just screwed up the context for everyone and has thus devalued many other members' posts! 

I do feel like we're beating up on howl, if people really want to see it they can find it. 

 

Keeping on topic, as far as dating goes on these apps you can meet all kinds of people- surprisingly ive had some good luck on more of the budget-tier apps like ok cupid rather than bumble or tinder. Time to broaden my horizons and meet girls through friends I guess?

 

On that note, I'm constantly hearing people say "Id never actually date a person I met on an app, etc etc" to which I feel is a little odd. It's more respectable than a bar in certain contexts, you already vet out that you are attracted to eachother, and you can have some small chat up front to see if it clicks. That being said I've never seriously dated anybody through these avenues, so maybe I'm jaded...