Djrajio Dating Thread/Advice Column

[jayrock]

did she text you back? i think you know the answer by now?

Yeah she messaged me the next day apologizing profusely about being drunk and not explaining everything very well. Said I'm a great guy blah blah blah, but that she actually has kinda been seeing someone for a couple months now and that's all she's ready for after the long term relationship right now. Told her she didn't need to apologize for anything and if her situation changes to holler at me. She could just be making it all up for all I know, but she came across as sincerely apologetic and I don't really care that much because she handled it so well

Onto the next one

[non-coworker hopefully, drunk idiot]

[Bleu1950]

good luck bro.

[Fycus]

Yeah she messaged me the next day apologizing profusely about being drunk and not explaining everything very well. Said I'm a great guy blah blah blah, but that she actually has kinda been seeing someone for a couple months now and that's all she's ready for after the long term relationship right now. Told her she didn't need to apologize for anything and if her situation changes to holler at me. She could just be making it all up for all I know, but she came across as sincerely apologetic and I don't really care that much because she handled it so well

Onto the next one

[non-coworker hopefully, drunk idiot]

 

She never saw you in that light, you were not a consideration of hers. Move on!

[charisma]

In love with someone on the other side of the country, tried to make it work long distance for about a month but we couldn't handle it and had to break it off. Wish I could try again, it's been about 2 months since then. 

[ken shinoda]

Yeah she messaged me the next day apologizing profusely about being drunk and not explaining everything very well. Said I'm a great guy blah blah blah, but that she actually has kinda been seeing someone for a couple months now and that's all she's ready for after the long term relationship right now. Told her she didn't need to apologize for anything and if her situation changes to holler at me. She could just be making it all up for all I know, but she came across as sincerely apologetic and I don't really care that much because she handled it so well

Onto the next one

[non-coworker hopefully, drunk idiot]

 

She vulnerable and has a soft spot for you. You should be able to take advantage of that situation, if you are into that sort of thing. 

[ken shinoda]

In love with someone on the other side of the country, tried to make it work long distance for about a month but we couldn't handle it and had to break it off. Wish I could try again, it's been about 2 months since then. 

 

This might be the answer for long distance relationship, I suspect they have the male version for the female market as well:

 

[Hsin8]

[djrajio]

Yeah she messaged me the next day apologizing profusely about being drunk and not explaining everything very well. Said I'm a great guy blah blah blah, but that she actually has kinda been seeing someone for a couple months now and that's all she's ready for after the long term relationship right now. Told her she didn't need to apologize for anything and if her situation changes to holler at me. She could just be making it all up for all I know, but she came across as sincerely apologetic and I don't really care that much because she handled it so well

Onto the next one

[non-coworker hopefully, drunk idiot]

 

Kill her.

[uhhuh69]

 

where to cop for iphone

[Nov Spur]

Two old girls getting married. One of whom I fucked while she was with the current dude. I wish them both the best, but I can't help wishing it was different. Freedom sucks sometimes. 

[haploid]

dat pre nup

[gettoasty]

My grandmas sister is setting me up to meet a girl this weekend. Don't know how to feel

[conqueror]

Don't know how to feel

 

depressed?

 

(na, good luck.)

[gettoasty]

in hindsight this was very painful. three elder ladies in the room sitting around chatting waiting for something to happen. 

 

i just sat their cheesing not really knowing what to say. 

 

finally left the apartment and ended up walking around the building exploring. sweet girl from Shenyang. she'd greet all the elderly we passed by as "auntie" and "uncle." We even helped this elderly couple get into the locked apartment building to see if there was any applications available for tenancy. we also walked by these three ladies playing mahjong in the recreation room. She thought it was rude to walk through the room while they were playing and greeted them all respectively. i couldn't keep up with her mandarin and she couldn't keep up with my english, so, we both spoke our native tongue to keep the conversation flowing. 

 

to grab an excerpt from another thread:

 

Let me take a guess - because being out amongst 'non depressed' or 'successful' people might highlight your own social and personal inadequacies. 

 

Notice how I put non depressed and successful in quotation marks - everybody has their own insecurities and issues, its just that those people may be riding a wave rather than a trough at that particular moment. I'm sure you have been in social situations where your good mood or projected success has made somebody else feel ill at-ease with themselves. 

 

Use facebook as an example - they have actually proven that being bombarded by the non-stop display of lifestyle pornography from your acquaintances (not friends) makes you depressed because you begin to perceive their comparative successes in life as benchmark to measure your own by. Get rid of that shit - the people that matter most are probably on your phone or you see them daily.

 

My advice - just begin to realise that though person B may have an attractive girlfriend or nice car, they are probably just as unhappy as you. To transcend beyond a state where you perceive another's lifestyle as a model to base yours upon is the first step in a path of projecting your own individual aura upon the world, and you will soon begin to notice how things will change for you. 

 

 

this is my feelings right now lol. i feel drained after the meetup, physically and mentally. she's about to graduate and has good things lined up for her. we both agreed about the type of employer NOT to work for, which hit me kind of hard since she even agreed that I should change jobs quick. 

 

in the end i didn't ask for her # and by the time we reconvened in the apartment to say goodbye, i felt foolish to bring it up as an afterthought. 

 

i feel really pathetic, and too embarrassed/not open minded enough to bring up with other involved as to what happens next. probably nothing. she probably also thinks i'm an airhead ABC

[CBM]

Uh-huh

Edited November 25, 2018 by CBM

[tac0tron]

"I really appreciate our friendship!"

 

"I'm so glad we're friends!"

 

DAMMIT. How do I get out of this shit? I barely started hanging out with her and its already there.

[ken shinoda]

Shes not into you, but trying to let you know subtly.

Edited July 16, 2014 by ken shinoda

[SSchadenfreude]

"I really appreciate our friendship!"

 

"I'm so glad we're friends!"

 

DAMMIT. How do I get out of this shit? I barely started hanging out with her and its already there.

dress mor sexy

[tac0tron]

She actually likes my steeze tho

But maybe I shouldn't pursue. She's currently on a "break" with her bf but she wants to split with him. Sounds like a mess.

Explains a lot lol

Edited July 17, 2014 by harotron

[ken shinoda]

She'll eventually dig you, once theres another female thrown into the mix. 

 

Keep in touch with her, but get to know other girls as well. Just dont focus on her too much, otherwise you are gonna mess it up.

[exhaust fumes]

Girls know if they're going to sleep with you ever the first moment they see you.

 

Unless you want to hang around forever and hope for a drunken tryst, you're wasting your time.

[SSchadenfreude]

Usually but not always. Often there are many variables and maybes.

Some who even initially decide they don't wanna sex with u can be persuaded.

This one bz who h8ted my guts eventually gave in and let me do it. Maybe she was just tired of my persistence and gave me that pussy just to shut me up. We even fucked a bunch if times more for a few weeks after. Pretty sure she's h8s me again lol

[conqueror]

Girls know if they're going to sleep with you ever the first moment they see you.

 

hahaha this is like some terrible shit you'd read on askmen.com written by a wannabe alpha 'love guru'.

[Fycus]

It's kinda true though in the fact that like men, women also judge on physical characteristics and subconsciously qualify somebody as being a worthy suitor upon meeting them. I think its easier to convince a girl otherwise as a guy, but generally speaking for guys a lot of the initial contact defines how they perceive a girl. That being said, when some girls start talking sometimes its game over. 

[boy better know]

^ hasn't it been already established that younger women will judge you based on your looks while older women will look more at your wealth / social status / whatever they call it now?

[po_boy_fuuma_hatesbargerz]

all the advice here is terrible and sschaud is most definitely patrick bateman. 

pagin djraij

Edited July 18, 2014 by lola swagpoodle

[wEstSidE]

^ hasn't it been already established that younger women will judge you based on your looks while older women will look more at your wealth / social status / whatever they call it now?

klout score

 

it's called "klout score"

[blkrd]

this girl ive been friends with for ages has started sleepin around again

 

it never really phased me but now its abit frustrating

 

 

never really found this girl physically attractive (has a great ass though) but i think ive caught feelings

 

fuck feelings

[Fycus]

let her sleep around. you do the same with other chicks. make her jealous, and if you really wanna get back together with her maybe you'll have the opportunity to catch any dick germs she gained along the way. 

 

edit: but in all honesty, maybe shes not into you, or maybe you haven't made it clear that you are into her. it happens all the time if you don't communicate your feelings. let her do her thing, if she peels out and realizes it isnt for her then maybe try to pursue again. 

Edited July 19, 2014 by Fycus

[blkrd]

edit: but in all honesty, maybe shes not into you, or maybe you haven't made it clear that you are into her. it happens all the time if you don't communicate your feelings. let her do her thing, if she peels out and realizes it isnt for her then maybe try to pursue again. 

 

i havent had those types of feelings for this girl until now thats whats bumming me out

 

ive known her for around 1.5 years and made it obvious that id rather not be in a relationship but now its kinda like ~~~

 

ehhh