this bitch i was fuckin with and then she broke my heart thread

[frank]

i wish i couldve told her, "WAIT! hold that thought. I'M breaking up with YOU" and just bone out.

you really shouldve boned her. now henry's getting all the goods

[sidneylo]

Checking in…it is officially a week of celibacy.

[dismalfuture]

Sidneylo - I know you're kinda set on this celibacy thing as some sort of fuel for your personal endeavors, but I really think you ought to grease up things with a bit more alternative perspective mate. From what I see:

- Swearing celibacy in this moist hazy post-breakup period is some sort of fear reflex after getting burnt;

- Associating your personal productivity to your love life after a negative experience: not good.

- Doing the above, and isolating your wimminz experience to just what you have thus far and refusing new ones, having ended the last on a sour note: you are going to end up spending far too much time uselessly thinking about previous girl and trapping yourself in the past. Worst case scenario, you could more or less become like some sort of alcoholic Groundhog Day sadman, getting nothing done. Ask me how I know.

Theoretically, going celibate and vowing to work harder with a clearer mind, that works, but it's better with older guys who have libidos that died 20 years ago and are just looking for an excuse for inactivity. You, my dude, are at the age where you need to be juicing your heart, letting your soul bounce up and down inside that body of yours. In other words, you need to be going out, trying to get your fingers into some girls so you can desanctify the sexual experience, wash out previous girl's faults by mixing them in your new girl experiences. Things even out better when you take an average of the total.

My feeling is that you probably get more done creativity-wise if you get your heart fluttering a bit as well. Being the sad artist is a romantic image, but most often times pretty fruitless. Realistically, there is more sad than art happening in those kinds of situations. Being sloppily infatuated with new love though, I think those kinds of moments are nice for keeping your soul refreshed.

[geekbonchic]

Word.

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[sidneylo]

Sidneylo - I know you're kinda set on this celibacy thing as some sort of fuel for your personal endeavors, but I really think you ought to grease up things with a bit more alternative perspective mate. From what I see:

- Swearing celibacy in this moist hazy post-breakup period is some sort of fear reflex after getting burnt;

- Associating your personal productivity to your love life after a negative experience: not good.

- Doing the above, and isolating your wimminz experience to just what you have thus far and refusing new ones, having ended the last on a sour note: you are going to end up spending far too much time uselessly thinking about previous girl and trapping yourself in the past. Worst case scenario, you could more or less become like some sort of alcoholic Groundhog Day sadman, getting nothing done. Ask me how I know.

Theoretically, going celibate and vowing to work harder with a clearer mind, that works, but it's better with older guys who have libidos that died 20 years ago and are just looking for an excuse for inactivity. You, my dude, are at the age where you need to be juicing your heart, letting your soul bounce up and down inside that body of yours. In other words, you need to be going out, trying to get your fingers into some girls so you can desanctify the sexual experience, wash out previous girl's faults by mixing them in your new girl experiences. Things even out better when you take an average of the total.

My feeling is that you probably get more done creativity-wise if you get your heart fluttering a bit as well. Being the sad artist is a romantic image, but most often times pretty fruitless. Realistically, there is more sad than art happening in those kinds of situations. Being sloppily infatuated with new love though, I think those kinds of moments are nice for keeping your soul refreshed.

Thanks. I really appreciate all the thought you've been putting into responses…

To be honest, the whole celibacy for the rest of the year thing was more of an idea. You know how you start extreme just to get to that point. I think I needed the extreme to get me over the hump as far as actually taking a hiatus.

Right now, it's not even much of a forced thing…kind of feels alright to just put that all away for a bit and not even think about anything.

I agree with you though about not jumping ship, especially for what is obviously the wrong reason…it'll be like a rationalized decision that I tricked myself into that's really serving me no purpose.

I'm good right now though…once I get out of here sunday and get to Toronto and Montreal I'm gonna loosen the fuck up.

[mr fluffernutter]

i'll hook you up with the west coastish 12 yr old hipsters, HOT

[sidneylo]

I thought you said Sarah's sister was 17?

I'm confused.

[DüM]

i'll hook you up with the west coastish 12 yr old hipsters, HOT

ok

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[sidneylo]

I thought you said Sarah's sister is 17?

I'm confused.

In case you didn't read the last post.

[mr fluffernutter]

im not so sure you know what you're getting into

[sidneylo]

I get to get into her?

You're more forward than usual, Devlin.

[DüM]

will she ride her skateboard around town with me?

I will have her home by 11.

[mr fluffernutter]

Let me be forward with you.

[DüM]

Let me be behind you.

[sidneylo]

bitch if you're reading this, i love you bitch, and I got this box of krispy kreme to get that ass back into fighting shape.

Just quoting this for posterity.

[sushijerk]

or book stores apparently (one of my brothers swears by this...)

This is actually very true. There's a decent amount of girls hanging out in bookstores looking to meet guys, except I always get faked out by dumb corny/fobby chicks who are masquerading as smart nerdy ones?

[sidneylo]

Remember to hold your book right side up.

[dismalfuture]

Sidneylo, status check;

Are Canadian wimminz warming up your heart, and are you 100% yet?

[dismalfuture]

also paging gas prices kill and Lab

[herpsky]

Montreal girls are super hot

[Eason]

I broke my ex gf's heart by breaking up with her after over 2 and a half years, then getting with her friend. I didn't think I'd regret it, but I think I do.

[Lab]

Haven't been to Canada since I was 6...and that was Vancouver. I remember chasing pigeons and sitting on cold park benches, but that's about it.

[dismalfuture]

I broke my ex gf's heart by breaking up with her after over 2 and a half years, then getting with her friend. I didn't think I'd regret it, but I think I do.

I will save you a spot next to me in hell Eason. That is a pretty steezy move though, how'd you pull the switch off? I am a pussy when it comes to breaking up with girls, I just stop returning texts and phone calls, until they come at me really angry 2 weeks later and break up with me. I don't feel too guilty though, so it's a bad habit I can't stop.

[Eason]

I will save you a spot next to me in hell Eason. That is a pretty steezy move though, how'd you pull the switch off? I am a pussy when it comes to breaking up with girls, I just stop returning texts and phone calls, until they come at me really angry 2 weeks later and break up with me. I don't feel too guilty though, so it's a bad habit I can't stop.

Well, my (at the time) gf was visiting and introduced me to her friends, and told me to please help her friend find a BF because she's lonely here. So, I did. The whole thing was pretty terrible and twisted though, I officially broke up with her for seperate reasons (she wanted to get married, my life would have been over, I would have wished I dated other girls, etc) but this gf seems similiar in the same ways. The ex was much better (and more giving) in bed too. Karma.

Breaking up with somebody you've been together with for so long, whom you've done everything with, is like cutting a piece of yourself away. It's slow, agonizingly painful, there'll be tears, and you'll always think and dream of your little missing appendage, no matter how much you try and forget.

[sidneylo]

Sidneylo, status check;

Are Canadian wimminz warming up your heart, and are you 100% yet?

Canada has been great to me so far. My heart aches less than before, and I'm closer to 100% now that I have had more time to be happy with myself rather being focused on being happy for/with someone else.

[m1sterko]

Breaking up with somebody you've been together with for so long, whom you've done everything with, is like cutting a piece of yourself away. It's slow, agonizingly painful, there'll be tears, and you'll always think and dream of your little missing appendage, no matter how much you try and forget.

what you say reminds me of 2046.

i hope you find prosperity and love in the near future

[sidneylo]

If you've ever seen 2046, you know there's no point in hoping for love and prosperity, only fragments of the memories that made you whole…or whatever WKW would say (but in Chinese of course).

[m1sterko]

If you've ever seen 2046, you know there's no point in hoping for love and prosperity, only fragments of the memories that made you whole…or whatever WKW would say (but in Chinese of course).

hmm, maybe im wrong but i always thought 2046 was telling you to get out of that "phase" and get over it. damn i've been typing and deleting for 5 minutes... on the idea of 2046. quite the strange entity like love

showed the movie to some guy friends.. bastards didnt appreciate it. i thought it was a really well done movie. but oh well, not everyones cup of tea. i always like to hope in alot of books / movies that things works out and yada yada happy ending. hopeless romantic? :confused:

[sidneylo]

2046 definitely isn't a film for hopeless romantics.

[lestat]

offtopic but...

Zhang ZiYi seems to get fucked in literally every movie shes in... Crotching Tiger, Hero, Flying Daggers, 2046...