superconfessional

[kunk75]

i saw some of the replies and thought, shit, i'd kill to obsess over HIV and cancer-they're treatable. i'm always convinced it's some untreatable, incurable thing.

same. probably stems from my neuroticism, ranging from me being a hypochondriac to a manic expressive.

[thedaniway]

i'm really upset with my parents for not preparing for my future better, for not saving for my schooling. their lack of preparation made me have to take a year off of school and really decide what i want to do with my life, which is good-but now i'm trying to figure out all of this loan junk and fafsa blah and i don't know where to start. not-to-mention my mom doesn't feel she needs to provide any of her financial information for the fafsa... which she does(!), and she's making my life a hell of a lot more difficult. the thing that pisses me off is that i was a really good student that earned a few grand in academic scholarships, but had to forfeit them due to lack of funds/knowledge for school. now, i get to watch my younger, dumb sister get everything handed to her and her college savings account grow. it's bullshit, and sometimes i wish i could shoot both of my parents in the knee to wake them the fuck up.

[sarcasticone]

I agree your parents are being difficult but those are some of the pains of becoming an adult. In the long run you'll appreciate your education more because of the sacrifices you have made.

[wesc]

dani hitting it rough in the schooling. i cant say i feel you on that because my mom even just fills out the fafsa for me cause she believes that ill never remember to do it and thus lose it. my older brother i think is somewhat in your position where ive gone to him for advice and he says " i dunno" because he feels that he's gotten through it himself without any guidance or help so therefore he feels no need to help me out in anyway.

i asked him once what major i should do he didnt help at all. i ended up with a useless major. i just wished that sometimes he'd be a big brother to me like when we were younger but now a days he's more like an ambivalent friend.

i just hope that your bitterness in this mess doesnt turn you to retaliate in lack of elder advice towards the little sis.

[kunk75]

i grew up with a single mom who was fucked as far as money. i showed up at nyu on my first day and my whole schedule was dropped-she never did my paperwork/financial aid docs.

when i bought my house, she took out 5k to help me on a high interest loan and i've had to lend her money from time to time.

i put money away for my kids, but in reality, it's not parents' responsibility to pay for college, but it doesn't hurt either.

[thedaniway]

I agree your parents are being difficult but those are some of the pains of becoming an adult. In the long run you'll appreciate your education more because of the sacrifices you have made.

this is true, but i've always understood the value of furthering your education... i've just never had the means to get there. i'm trying to take out as much money as i can in loans so that i don't have to work full time and be a student. i'm upset that i'm probably going to have to anyways. in my eyes-it's best for a college student to not work at all, focus solely on school, take an internship, and get noticed.

this all may sound whiny or bratty, but i have been trying to make a living without a college degree and it's practically impossible to be happy that way. plus, my brain feels like it's deteriorating with everyday that passes that i'm not in school.

my parents didn't only make things difficult, but they've shoved it in my face by starting a college fund for my sister.

[Egpt]

college education in america is fucking ridiculous.

the best universities in portugal cost around 1000 euros/year

[thedaniway]

i just hope that your bitterness in this mess doesnt turn you to retaliate in lack of elder advice towards the little sis.

i would do anything and everything to help my sister out. unfortunately, i think my parents are going to give her whatever she wants her whole life without discipline, and she's going to be the epitome of that rich, bitchy cwg. is that too harsh? i'm just tellin' it like it is.

[brentos]

college education in america is fucking ridiculous.

the best universities in portugal cost around 1000 euros/year

Yeah, its called Socialism...

[dunkin deeznuts]

take out loans, get all the financial aid you can can and work your way through school, you are going to need spending money

stop relying on other people/ expecting other people to do for you, this is your time to become your own person. stop being a whiny brat

[Guest jeffvyain]

stop being a whiny brat

it was constructive criticism up to this point. i guess we shouldn't expect much in superstrash, but this is superconfessional, where we pretend to care about others' feelings. you could try not being an asshole.

[cheep]

no, she should stop being a whiny brat... oh, your parents didnt pay for school for you... boo fucking hoo.

[thedaniway]

no, she should stop being a whiny brat... oh, your parents didnt pay for school for you... boo fucking hoo.

yea, i'd rather kick back at a high paying desk job then work construction, and i'm pissed that my parents didn't prepare me for my future. NOT that they didn't pay for my schooling you fuck.

[freecat]

honestly if i had to pay for my studies, and get a loan for like some years, i'd still do it, because it's worth it.

fortunately, my studies are free (yet), and i get money from the government to pay for my flat (only for people in the need, but since it's calculated on 2 years back salary, you can kinda cheat), my mom give me what they'd spend for me if i was living with her, this pays food and some stuff.

[cheep]

yea, i'd rather kick back at a high paying desk job then work construction, and i'm pissed that my parents didn't prepare me for my future. NOT that they didn't pay for my schooling you fuck.

my parents didnt do shit to prepare me for my future... fuck, my dad didnt even give my mom child support, and he wasnt around at all. i didnt go to college. the only way i have a job doing what im doing is i got a girl pregnant when i was 19 and she wanted to get married, and her dad owned a construction company. i started there as a laborer making 8$ an hour. ive worked my ass off to get where im at now, and no one helped me along the way besides myself.

actually, you know what my mom did to prepare me for my future? kick me out of the house at 17 because i ate 1 hit of acid. that and make me go to jehovahs witness meetings 3 times a week.

[freecat]

way to learn life without being a spoiled kid.

[DaBestSpoona]

My parents never really supported me

When I needed a learners permit at 16 or whatever age they refused to sign for my permit and drivers ed. So I never learned to drive.

When I wanted to go to NYU, they refused to pay, so I ended up at CUNY @1300 a year, and they yelled at me for not going to NYU after I graduated.

It all worked out in the end.

I married a japanese girl with a finance degree @ CUNY who drives who introduced me to Silas, APC, Bal, Nonnative, TRP, XL when NYU kids were rocking JCrew, AF, BR. Retiring in a few years thanks to my CUNY connection.

yeah, stop being a whiny brat.

[dunkin deeznuts]

man, you need a good swift kick in your skinny cwg ass

life is going to get alot harder than your parents not paying for your school..you sound pretty fucking pathetic

my mom struggled as well and tried to give me what she could but she had her own problems and life to deal with as most people do

I don't blame your parents for not supporting your bratty ass

go figure out how to pay for your education, it will make you a stronger person instead of hte pot smoking hippie who spends the whole day on superfuture and having e-sex with clopek on IM when jeffs not around

and no, my parents did not pay for my undergrad or grad school and i (like kunk) need to hook my mom dukes up with loot

[Guest jeffvyain]

Nobody's saying you can't make shit work for yourself. Millions of people are making it happen. Plenty are not, though, too. $8/hour is hardly a living wage with a child. Congrats for gettin where you gottin.

[thedaniway]

my parents didnt do shit to prepare me for my future... fuck, my dad didnt even give my mom child support, and he wasnt around at all. i didnt go to college. the only way i have a job doing what im doing is i got a girl pregnant when i was 19 and she wanted to get married, and her dad owned a construction company. i started there as a laborer making 8$ an hour. ive worked my ass off to get where im at now, and no one helped me along the way besides myself.

so you understand how fucking hard it is to come from nothing and try to have something. so why shit on me for wanting life to be easier if it can be? don't you wish your mom would have helped you out? or that your dad would have given a fuck about you? (i don't even know my real dad. he never sent child support either... and my stepdad doesn't qualify as "father" material) i know that i'd prefer a college education then a construction job or even the shitty jobs i've had over the past year.

i'm not saying give it to me without work. i worked fucking hard in school to get badass grades, but didn't go to school because of lack of preparation on both my and my parent's parts. but i was a high schooler... in a town where everyone gets everything handed to them... and i didn't get shit. i haven't gotten shit since i turned 15 and could work.

and my parents COULD have given me shit. they just didn't. would you not think that's frustrating?

this is a put yourself in MY shoes situation. and i'm sure that you assholes who are talkin' shit have felt how i feel now at one point... probably when you were my age.

[cheep]

so you understand how fucking hard it is to come from nothing and try to have something. so why shit on me for wanting life to be easier if it can be? don't you wish your mom would have helped you out? or that your dad would have given a fuck about you? (i don't even know my real dad. he never sent child support either... and my stepdad doesn't qualify as "father" material) i know that i'd prefer a college education then a construction job or even the shitty jobs i've had over the past year.

i'm not saying give it to me without work. i worked fucking hard in school to get badass grades, but didn't go to school because of lack of preparation on both my and my parent's parts. but i was a high schooler... in a town where everyone gets everything handed to them... and i didn't get shit. i haven't gotten shit since i turned 15 and could work.

i dont know... i just annoys me when people say "why cant my life be easier"... because thats life. life is suffering. yeah, it would be cool if i had a degree, and didnt have to work as hard as i have in the past... but at least now i know i can do it myself if i have to.

i know where youre coming from... trust me.

[broneck]

my parents gave me everything and i squandered it.

this is a confession. not bragging or joking like some kind of asshole.

[constant struggle]

my parents paid for my education in full

and my brothers

and my sisters

they coughta bought a house with all that cash damn

but im really thankful, and hopefully i can pay for my kid's college in the future

[wesc]

^ a constant struggle for you huh ? the irony !

[chronoaug]

clopek- I mean, doing that kinda makes you an asshole. At least you not oblivious to it though so i guess it makes you not an asshole. I'm confused now.

[cjbreed]

well it is ok to vent your frustration with the hand you are dealt (in moderation), as long as you don't let it stop you from moving forward in life and accomplishing your goals. you will feel much better about yourself, and you will be a much more responsible and capable person, if you do it on your own. you are learning valuable lessons that in this life, you gotta make shit happen for yourself. i worked full time and paid for much of my schooling myself, and graduated cum laude with honors and all that shit. and still found time to fill my days with girls and booze and dope. ah those were the days

[Brienneoftarth]

I went to state school in New York. My parents paid cus it was in state tuition and they knew that if they didn't, I would've dropped out and worked construction. Education does have it's value. However, I think you've been offered a very good opportunity by your parents. A lot of kids get their school paid for by the well-intended parents who think that a college degree is essential to their kids security in the world. It isn't. And rushing into college after high school with the bill paid and no idea what you want to do is severely detrimental to any future success. I don't know how old you are, but I am assuming you are very young. Take your time. Stop thinking about having it easy. You're gunna have to work and even people with great jobs bust their asses to get by. Take the job you have now and figure out how you can put away money for your own education. Then live a little. Figure out what you want to do and research a career-oriented education. Not a tech school or anything, but some place that helps you focus on the job waiting for you afterward. That could take years, but by that time you will be independent of your parents and eligible for lots of loans/grants, especially since you said you have great high school grades. if you put away some cash for those years you'll be able to apply yourself to your studies and get someplace. trust me, the real world experience you gain working at shitty jobs is priceless. It puts a fire under your ass that other people don;t have because everything was taken care off and it motivates you to find what you really want. I wish I hadn't gone to college the way i did. I was too young and confused. I dunno, your situation is a lot better in the long run than you think.

[thedaniway]

well it is ok to vent your frustration with the hand you are dealt (in moderation), as long as you don't let it stop you from moving forward in life and accomplishing your goals. you will feel much better about yourself, and you will be a much more responsible and capable person, if you do it on your own. you are learning valuable lessons that in this life, you gotta make shit happen for yourself. i worked full time and paid for much of my schooling myself, and graduated cum laude with honors and all that shit. and still found time to fill my days with girls and booze and dope. ah those were the days

i appreciate your honesty, and i agree. if anything, my parents taught me how to be a better parent someday from all the things they did to set me back. i just feel that as a parent it is your job to support your child until they are ready to support themselves. now, with that said-i feel that it is important for one to learn about work ethic and to have their eyes opened to what the "real world" is like. also, i don't mean to make my parents sound like shitheads, because they aren't. they just didn't prepare me or themselves for my schooling future. they always pushed me to get good grades and to work hard, but when it came down to college crunch time they fell through. the main reason i am complaining now is because my financial situation has been really rough since living on my "own" for the past year and my parents still refuse to help out.... even with simple things like giving me fafsa info. it just seems ridiculous.

EDIT: please don't think that i am trying to downplay the importance and education i can get out of having to pay for my own schooling or having low-paying jobs. i've been out of school for a year, and have been struggling to find a passion for that whole year. i now know what career path i want to follow, and i know i need college to get there. i'm doing the best i can with what i have and finding out all of my possibilities. i'm just sick of working all of these pointless jobs. when i get my paycheck and see that minuscule number, realize that i'm at a job in a 'profession' that i don't wish to climb in-i don't feel good about myself. i know i can do better than that.

[ProfMonnitoff]

my parents gave me everything and i squandered it.

this is a confession. not bragging or joking like some kind of asshole.

i occasionally feel like this even though i'm doing fairly well for myself. it just seems that whenever i do fuck up, there are a million safety nets set up for me.

[Guest Phrost]

financial aid makes a big difference - make sure you fill out all your FAFSA & TAP CORRECTLY & EVERY single state/city grant that you can get your hands on. keep tabs on your financial aid, if it's not filled out a certain way, no money. another very useful tip - buy ALL your books on amazon. you literally save hundreds buying used over the internet.

I get absolutely no money for my education or living expenses from parents. i'm glad i'm smart with my money and set myself up nicely. i wouldn't have it any other way.