Djrajio Dating Thread/Advice Column

[tRaFFiC LiGhT 12,166]

context....rolling into a restaurant with buncha guys and there's a group of women across the restaurant. i can't just walk up and be like hi.

[Jimbo69 24,576]

meet women somewhere else

[broneck 1,657,139]

i like jimbo's advice. but beyond that, what kind of a restaurant is it? are we talking TGI Fridays? Easier than a 5 star joint. Be completely uncreative and send overt a round of drinks after dinner. Get a friend who has a girlfriend (therefore, won't care about looking like a bit of a chump) to invite the girls over for further drinks. Presumably there's a specific girl that you're into. Focus. Act unassuming and a little shy - talk to the girl of your focus, acting as though it was your friend's idea to send the drinks over so you don't look like "that guy".

Ok, now you have a reason to talk to at least one girl. I can't help you from here - this is where the marketable personality comes in. But not being creative enough to figure out how to talk to a stranger, regardless of gender, is never a good start.

edit - it probably also helps to have a plan for after dinner. i.e. somewhere to suggest the girls end up at for the remainder of the evening - concert, bar, etc.

[tRaFFiC LiGhT 12,166]

small restaurant. a mom and pop kinda place. i'd prefer to not have to wait until i'm old enough to order drinks in order to pick up women so i was wondering how i;d go about that without being completely shut down

[raddy 2,190]

Accept the fact that 19/20 times you'll get shut down (not necessarily because you're a chump) and realize that girls turn 18 faster than they can possibly shoot you down.

[broneck 1,657,139]

Raddy speaks in truth. The reality is pretty simple: you'll never know if you don't try.

[jlow 7,078]

stop destroying the thread

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[colourz 164,651]

hey djraijo,

how significant is it when a girl tells you "i don't know why i'm telling you this..." and proceeds to share something personal with you? how should i respond/react to that?

[djrajio 97,327]

It's all chick logic.

Like when you take a girl back to your place after a first date and she says "I usually don't do this on a first date..." which means:

"I really want to have sex with you but because society places a sigma on women that sleep on a first date, so I'll try to make up of some retarded excuse, get drunk, and blame it on the alcohol and the fact that things just happened."

She's basically trying to mentally validate that whatever she's about to say or do is OK.

So when a girl says

"i don't know why i'm telling you this..."

it means:

"I really really want to tell you this but I know I shouldn't because society places a sigma on people that have done <insert taboo>, etc."

Just keep your cool and don't place an opinion on the matter.

[thorough 13,837]

what do you think about gaming at work with customers(waiter at decent restaurant concept)

I know some guys at work are good at this without trying but others are just creepy. how do gage interest in a restaurant costumer worker situation?

[Caps Lock 31,972]

I found out today I was deleted off of her facebook.

Cause I said something not so nice and apologized for it, sent some flowers too in apology. I know time heals all, would it be wise to just wait a few weeks and contact her?

I could always just give up in general and look for something else.

[cyberPUNK 272,794]

give it up homie, sometimes shit is just fucked. more fish in the sea.

[DaBestSpoona 573,756]

I found out today I was deleted off of her facebook.

Cause I said something not so nice and apologized for it, sent some flowers too in apology. I know time heals all, would it be wise to just wait a few weeks and contact her?

I could always just give up in general and look for something else.

Take the L, and facebook her friends

[Seething Tortoise 132,014]

Not a big deal, said I'd go watch a friend's play.

Don't want to go alone to watch a live musical, so I need someone to tag along with if possible, or I'll just sack it off.

So I have two choices really.

Cambodian American, probably more interested in doing something.

Greek/Brit mix, doesn't seem as interested, but is alright to talk to.though and arguably hotter.

Decisions, decisions. Not really too bothered, but w/e

[po_boy_fuuma_hatesbargerz 728,821]

I found out today I was deleted off of her facebook.

Cause I said something not so nice and apologized for it, sent some flowers too in apology. I know time heals all, would it be wise to just wait a few weeks and contact her?

I could always just give up in general and look for something else.

GIVVVE UPPPPP

[Caps Lock 31,972]

The tricky part about my situation is that, shes stopped contacting me before and then like 3 months later. We will start talking again, last time I stopped speaking to her was round last February and then she decides to contact me and re-add me on facebook this past October.

[Cool Story Hansel 32,091]

The tricky part about my situation is that, shes stopped contacting me before and then like 3 months later. We will start talking again, last time I stopped speaking to her was round last February and then she decides to contact me and re-add me on facebook this past October.

GIVVVE UPPPPP

are you really needy enough to put up with shit like that?

[broneck 1,657,139]

i feel like i can't post in this thread anymore.

[djrajio 97,327]

The tricky part about my situation is that, shes stopped contacting me before and then like 3 months later. We will start talking again, last time I stopped speaking to her was round last February and then she decides to contact me and re-add me on facebook this past October.

Ignore this woman.

[djrajio 97,327]

Chumps need to watch/listen to this:

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[JackPhotography 103,404]

hahahahahahahaha

[homi29 538,452]

man gene simmons is such a G

[Vampyrvargfesten 2,305,084]

Beyond the league tables, what differentiates your firm from other firms?

[Kev07 133,786]

The tricky part about my situation is that, shes stopped contacting me before and then like 3 months later. We will start talking again, last time I stopped speaking to her was round last February and then she decides to contact me and re-add me on facebook this past October.

bitch is crazy runnn

[ouss 6,737]

This has nothing do to with females but god damnit for a hedge fund manager that had a 870% return this is a pretty god damn good farewell letter:

http://images.nymag.com/images/2/daily/2008/10/20081017_lahde.pdf

yeah that's a pretty stylish goodbye

related

and WAY more disturbing

http://dealbreaker.com/2009/12/post-134.php

WTF???

[Jimbo69 24,576]

What the fuck

He probably took home millions and millions in the settlement

[mouko 23,426]

obligatory new year bump

[Bislane 175,095]

147 pages..

back to the bottom plz

[phen3N 162,496]

the fact that this is the first bump in 3 weeks must mean that we're all getting laid now. gj guys

[tm 6,211]

wheres dj?