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tinder date with an 18yr old, a terrible idea?

 

she told me to come out one night to the clubs but its a shit crowd. also felt like it was a cop-out idea by her so i said i couldn't and we rescheduled. on the day itself, we're supposed to go for dinner before heading to a bar so i'm just confirming it. says she's down before doing a 180 within the same minute to say she gotta raincheck cause her mate 'just got dumped and she's super sad :(( xx'.

yeah so fuck that i guess.

 

besides, the week made itself better when i went out with another match. we had breakfast in the morning, went for a walk, stopped by a park at just spoke and chill for a couple hours before getting lunch again. there was a moment during lunch where we weren't saying anything but she reached her leg under the table to brush it against mine and smiled but yeah i think we'll see each other again.

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 there was a moment during lunch where we weren't saying anything but she reached her leg under the table to brush it against mine and smiled but yeah i think we'll see each other again.

 

wearing wife beaters and wide leg trousers might get rep on the internet but for the sake of being real with you if you want a second date and weren't already friendzoned from the cringe im reading above id go for a more conservative approach. 

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that's nice howl 

 

fycus: i can understand why it may be cringe worthy but i think it's kind of cute actually. and wth does your dress have anything to do with it. i'm assuming he is dating girls that share some same interests. 

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wearing wife beaters and wide leg trousers might get rep on the internet but for the sake of being real with you if you want a second date and weren't already friendzoned from the cringe im reading above id go for a more conservative approach. 

 

was he wearing that on the d8?  mayb she like northern soul

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 wth does your dress have anything to do with it. i'm assuming he is dating girls that share some same interests. 

it matters and didnt he meet her on tinder?

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i would think online dating means keeping an open mind to who you're matched with, whether by choice or the algorithms behind the screen. i just don't think so much emphasis should be made on what you're wearing that day of the date. of course looks matter for that first impression but i thought fycus was talking strictly about his way of dress. nothing wrong with wearing a wife beater and wide leg trousers if you can pull it off. aren't these online dates suppose to be on the casual side anyways, at least the first meet. people can tell if you are comfortable in your own skin and IMO that is more than anything a positive signal.

 

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i met up with a friend of a friend and got some great feedback on coffee meets bagel. gives me hope. 

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wearing wife beaters and wide leg trousers might get rep on the internet but for the sake of being real with you if you want a second date and weren't already friendzoned from the cringe im reading above id go for a more conservative approach. 

not saying it's right, but schad's right. when you swipe based on a headshot & and someone shows up "internet approved" it may illicit a "huh, wha?"

 

i mean fycus, i'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that wife beaters and wide legs was what i wore to the date (because i never ever mentioned it) but if you have to know; a white collared blouse with no buttons, worn tucked in into black dress trousers and a pair of leather sandals. maybe that should give you an idea about whether i should be friend-zoned even though i don't see it as any sort of thing to be ashamed about if i do.

 

i'm sure anybody who ever matched with me can make some sort of accurate guess as to the sort of person they might meet. i'm not shady about it and i guess that makes it easier for me to not be so worried about what i should wear or what i shouldn't other than whether i feel good and confident in whatever i'm in for that day. to be a compromise of your own self would be such a shame for the sake of a woman who would definitely not be right person for you, if she felt uncomfortable about the way you presented yourself.

 

anyway, she was surprisingly interested enough in what i wore and complimented me so i guess that's that.

and besides, i had a good date.

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i mean fycus, i'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that wife beaters and wide legs was what i wore to the date (because i never ever mentioned it) but if you have to know; a white collared blouse with no buttons, worn tucked in into black dress trousers and a pair of leather sandals. maybe that should give you an idea about whether i should be friend-zoned even though i don't see it as any sort of thing to be ashamed about if i do.

 

i'm sure anybody who ever matched with me can make some sort of accurate guess as to the sort of person they might meet. i'm not shady about it and i guess that makes it easier for me to not be so worried about what i should wear or what i shouldn't other than whether i feel good and confident in whatever i'm in for that day. to be a compromise of your own self would be such a shame for the sake of a woman who would definitely not be right person for you, if she felt uncomfortable about the way you presented yourself.

 

anyway, she was surprisingly interested enough in what i wore and complimented me so i guess that's that.

and besides, i had a good date.

 

the friend zone is made up. it doesn't exist. it isn't a thing. if you 'get friend zoned' (which still isn't a thing) you done it to your own damn self. 

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not saying it's right, but schad's right. when you swipe based on a headshot & and someone shows up "internet approved" it may illicit a "huh, wha?"

 

how is this the same thing? "Internet approved" was reference to dress, i thought. Your headshot is capture of yourself. Two different types of attractions, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. And I referenced the same thing in my post about looks being a factor more so than dress if you are going to judge someone solely on appearance. 

 

howl was not wearing a wife beater and wide leg trousers anyways, fycus was being smartass 

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 she was surprisingly interested enough in what i wore and complimented me so i guess that's that.

 

yo post d8-fit.

 

verbatim how exactly did she compliment you (yr jawns/fit)?

how did yr tinder girl dress?  

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we were talking about yoga. but then asked 'what do you think of the way you dress?'

i said it would be uninteresting of me to talk about how i dressed so i asked what she thought of it.

she said, 'i think you have good posture and that what you wear makes me think of you as a calm and collected person'.

 

she wore a black t-shirt, those summery ethnic printed full-length skirts and sandals.

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i met up with a friend of a friend and got some great feedback on coffee meets bagel. gives me hope. 

 

Coffee meets Bagel is where you go when you're too frumpy for tinder.

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Coffee meets Bagel is where you go when you don't want STDs and/or crazy fucks.

 

aka when you get older.

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aka when you get older.

IDK what Coffee Meets Bagel is serving up for you where you live, but here in NYC it's basically the most "really serious about their career" Christian Asian women you can get that aren't really uh.. working for me. I'm sure they're all wonderfully nice women and I really hope the best for them, but after giving a few slightly more promising women a chance, I don't think the service really delivers that great. That and it's deathly slow.

I've had met much more interesting people on other services (OkCupid mostly).

At least Bumble gives you korny white girls almost 24/7. Go Florida State University!

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not saying it's right, but schad's right. when you swipe based on a headshot & and someone shows up "internet approved" it may illicit a "huh, wha?"

 

Isn't the american king of hookups dressed like an emo victorian wizard?

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Isn't the american king of hookups dressed like an emo victorian wizard?

r u giving a shout out to mystery?

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we were talking about yoga. but then asked 'what do you think of the way you dress?'

i said it would be uninteresting of me to talk about how i dressed so i asked what she thought of it.

she said, 'i think you have good posture and that what you wear makes me think of you as a calm and collected person'.

 

she wore a black t-shirt, those summery ethnic printed full-length skirts and sandals.

was her analysis of the way you dress accurate or at least satisfying in yr opinion?  

 

um did u smash yet?

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r u giving a shout out to mystery?

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imagine being a lady and seeing that face zoom in to yours to kiss you and then that fuzzy had hits your forehead and the goggles fall off.

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was her analysis of the way you dress accurate or at least satisfying in yr opinion?  

 

um did u smash yet?

 

i took it as a compliment. and no, my mind hasn't thought about that anyway.

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i took it as a compliment. and no, my mind hasn't thought about that anyway.

lulz

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The last five consecutive women with whom I have gone on a date have revealed to me that they have boyfriends, either just prior to, or during the first (and last) date. And I checked the stories out; it's true. What the fuck is going on here?

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The last five consecutive women with whom I have gone on a date have revealed to me that they have boyfriends, either just prior to, or during the first (and last) date. And I checked the stories out; it's true. What the fuck is going on here?

 

Testing the waters for something new.

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Testing the waters for something new.

 

 

Damn, if you've got a lame dude, just leave him!

That said, I'm not that keen on seeing someone who's going to be creeping behind my back. 

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imagine bein a lady and the first thing that u feel when ur kissed is the fuzz from his soul patch

 

imagine bein a lady and feeling an immense sense of dread

 

imagine bein a lady

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