Djrajio Dating Thread/Advice Column

[SSchadenfreude]

i hope you find happiness and what you're looking for one day,

 and you hurt a minimum of people to find your happiness.

Thanx man.

you can't make an omelette without breaking eggs

[jamokes]

why do you care so much, 70% of the guys i know do the same shit its not like sschad is an exception or anything. you can ask any other guy and get the same half-cocked answer. the dude wants to get laid freely with a main bitch and fuck other girls as he sees fit. its an evolutionary trait, spread the seed. just let the man be a caveman and move on.

 

you've missed my point 

i never asked him to explain or justify his desire for variety

 

the fact that he would be repelled by a woman's acceptance of his personality is what interests me

it's as if women devalue themselves in his eyes by valuing him

 

Tiger Woods response to the media after they found out about all of his affairs, "To the public I'm sorry, but you know I, just like most men, I want to have my cake and eat it too."

 

y u even care tho?

 

you've failed to answer my question again, but i'm glad you mentioned him

 

http://thelastpsychiatrist.com/2009/12/i_am_tiger_woods_part_1.html

 

he was a child prodigy who became a billionaire and used his status to marry a scandinavian model

there are plenty of circumstances separating him from most men

[haploid]

mommy issues: the thread

[CHINESEGOLD]

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Edited October 22, 2015 by CHINESEGOLD

[wrong_move]

mommy issues: the thread

 

whew! good thing i only have a piece of shit father

[exhaust fumes]

If you were really,really good friends with your ex before you hooked up, after you break it off is it better to try to act like you were before or cut them out

 

They moved to a different city anyways so the only way we talk is chat or w/e

 

You can still talk to her, it's fine, but it also depends on the aspects of the breakup etc. If you were such awesome friends or what have you, why'd you break up with her in the first place?

[CHINESEGOLD]

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Edited October 22, 2015 by CHINESEGOLD

[Method]

that shits gna happen. i recently broke up with my gf of 6 years we're still good friends but you gotta realize even if things go back to just being friends you guys live separate lives now. dont worry so much about a girl who left you and had to move away for school. say she was just a friend, how many good friends you have that are long distance anyway? that shits never easy.  if she really mattered maybe one day you guys will work it out but for now fuck it shes not in the right place let her do her thing.

[Champion champs]

Do you know what I hate? Flaky bitches. I need a chick that'll ride or die, pullin' the five, gettin' high with Gucci frames over her eyes.

[whitney]

Do you know what I hate? Flaky bitches. I need a chick that'll ride or die, pullin' the five, gettin' high with Gucci frames over her eyes.

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I've learned a few things whilst in sales.

 

If people really wanted to, they'll make time for you.  No matter how busy they are. Same applies to life.

 

Obviously they haven't prioritized you in their life as high as you have (prioritized) them in yours.

 

If it's just one or two chicks out of a dozen, I'd say move on.

 

If its been like that with every girl you've encountered lately, you may want to reevaluate your game.

[Champion champs]

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I've learned a few things whilst in sales.

 

If people really wanted to, they'll make time for you.  No matter how busy they are. Same applies to life.

 

Obviously they haven't prioritized you in their life as high as you have (prioritized) them in yours.

 

If it's just one or two chicks out of a dozen, I'd say move on.

 

If its been like that with every girl you've encountered lately, you may want to reevaluate your game.

You make me sound so pathetic! Don't get me wrong, that's good advice, but I just meant that it would nice to meet someone who is sincere and ambitious. Type As are elusive.

[whitney]

You make me sound so pathetic! Don't get me wrong, that's good advice, but I just meant that it would nice to meet someone who is sincere and ambitious. Type As are elusive.

 

Sorry, that wasn't my intention at all.  Just saying what I've learned... not sure what your game is like, or anything about you.  So that def was not my intention.  

 

BUT, it is one thing to be able to meet someone like that; and another to be able to get someone like that.

[Champion champs]

Sorry, that wasn't my intention at all.  Just saying what I've learned... not sure what your game is like, or anything about you.  So that def was not my intention.  

 

BUT, it is one thing to be able to meet someone like that; and another to be able to get someone like that.

 

No worries! And again, your second point is very astute. I'm the quintessential Type A with decent, if limited game (I can't work total strangers). Historically, I've had more problems with moderating my own social expectations than living up to anyone else's, and with seeming accessible. The most recurring critique is that I am intimidating simply in my togetherness (or rather, in the assumed judgementality thereof). That is all to say that I would like to think that there is more to a relationship than a MacBeth-like rivalry, but that I think I can also satisfy the vicarious ambition of likeminded women. 

[whitney]

No worries! And again, your second point is very astute. I'm the quintessential Type A with decent, if limited game (I can't work total strangers). Historically, I've had more problems with moderating my own social expectations than living up to anyone else's, and with seeming accessible. The most recurring critique is that I am intimidating simply in my togetherness (or rather, in the assumed judgementality thereof). That is all to say that I would like to think that there is more to a relationship than a MacBeth-like rivalry, but that I think I can also satisfy the vicarious ambition of likeminded women. 

 

If you have your shiet together (congratulations btw, not a lot of folks can say that), and you appear intimidating because of that--you should have the guts to approach total strangers + work them.  Being a guy, it's actually a little easier.  Girls like an assertive guy.  We don't want you to ask, so much as charm and than go for it.  We can sense when you're hesitant, and we also can pick up the hint that maybe you're into us.. time is of the essence.  You either keep enough distance that they can't friend zone you or; you guys become really good friends and later on there may be a chance that something will happen (people do win the lottery right?).

 

I think it might actually be a good exercise for you to go to a bar and try to pick up a hot woman; and see where the conversation goes.  The more people you talk to, the more practice you get; the better you'll be.  

[Kaf]

I need Djrajio advice. You still posting/lurking?

[david10d]

post kafsemens

[llobey]

yeah i got u too

[whitney]

I'm more interested in ur attitude.

[Kaf]

its horribly uninteresting and much more related to djrajio's personal life experience than advice you can find in a how to.

 

but it does involve gf and and does involve clothes and forever reason this is the place I thought to come to.

 

hi all.

[po_boy_fuuma_hatesbargerz]

If you have your shiet together (congratulations btw, not a lot of folks can say that), and you appear intimidating because of that--you should have the guts to approach total strangers + work them.  Being a guy, it's actually a little easier.  Girls like an assertive guy.  We don't want you to ask, so much as charm and than go for it.  We can sense when you're hesitant, and we also can pick up the hint that maybe you're into us.. time is of the essence.  You either keep enough distance that they can't friend zone you or; you guys become really good friends and later on there may be a chance that something will happen (people do win the lottery right?).

 

I think it might actually be a good exercise for you to go to a bar and try to pick up a hot woman; and see where the conversation goes.  The more people you talk to, the more practice you get; the better you'll be.  

 

i disagree on going to a bar and trying to pick up hot women if your self-esteem sucks.

you might have it together, but confidence and building up respect for yourself with what you can do (hobbies, work, etc) are going to do a shitload more for your self-respect than getting rejected one after another by women. 

 

but ymmv. 

[llobey]

rajio not comin spill it

[david10d]

spill the coffee beans

Edited January 22, 2016 by david10d

[david10d]

:-?

[CASSAVA PIECE]

break up with her

[ProfMonnitoff]

i disagree on going to a bar and trying to pick up hot women if your self-esteem sucks.

you might have it together, but confidence and building up respect for yourself with what you can do (hobbies, work, etc) are going to do a shitload more for your self-respect than getting rejected one after another by women. 

 

but ymmv. 

 

i agree w this

you cant fake being in a good place in life, and once you get there relationships etc just kind of happen on their own

Edited January 22, 2016 by ProfMonnitoff

[whitney]

If you don't take the first step u never going anywhere

and it's only rejection after rejection if you don't learn from the first rejection but hey,

If you don't have the belief then anything I say doesn't matter anyway because your mind is already made up

ETA--or the second, or the third. Shiet doesn't happen like *snaps* that.

Edited January 22, 2016 by whitney

[fads]

when the girl snaps the ball but you fumble and end up with 5 unanswered touchdowns

 

*the feels*

[gettoasty]

Sounds like it hurts

[MilFX]

If u azn and want white wimmins try hey-ai. They luv custard!

Yeah, when I was in Japan almost every white chick over there (US, UK, Canada, AU) had yellow fever bad. One Australian girl I knew married this Jap monk over there. Tons more cute Australian girls married Jap dudes over there. I think they like the tan skin and hairlessness or something..when I was at TAFE the cutest white girls were into Asian dudes also, it was like a trend. Like Viet and Cambodian dudes with PRL, long pinky nails and gold chains had the cutest white girls all the time..I don't know where this white chicks won't touch asians comes from?

 

I know white chicks wouldn't touch me, ever. I'm white.

Edited January 28, 2016 by MilFX

[MilFX]

Hey listen up, I'm old. I got some persepective for you young motherfuckers.

 

Basically when you're a young dude you get lucky sometimes. I did. Sometimes. Thank god for Jap girls though. I was always a "low value male", no money, no car, bad grades, goofy lookin.  So I could get em but I couldn't keep 'em coz I had no value in the long run.

 

So I tried to get a career and failed at that too. So now I'm old, still got no money, no car, casual job, still goofy lookin. But now I can't even get em let alone keep em. Gotta pay now.

 

Moral of the story, life gets hard. You would have to try a lot harder than I did to give yourself value. Like try really hard at something to get money or be cool. I dunno. yeah.

Edited January 28, 2016 by MilFX