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Kind of feel like i'm slowly falling out of love with my girlfriend, and in some ways I feel like i'm not even attracted to her anymore at times.

It's odd, kind of just cropped up out of the blue. I think she can tell, she told me she feels that i'm being distant and dismissive.

I don't want to make a rash decision, because she still is one of the most important people in my life, and she's stuck by/with me through some very trying times of mine. It's just kind of scary to me, because we are pretty much set on moving to another state together in the New Year. Maybe the feeling that i'm so committed caused this reaction.

In the entire time i've been with her, counting times when we've been on and off again, it's been like 3 years. In that time i've never once felt compelled to cheat. During breaks, or when we're off i've seen other woman, slept with them too (one of these woman became infamous due to a certain thread, i'm sure you all know) But yeah, when we're actually on and going, I have had no desire to be with other woman. I used to think she was godly in her beauty, but lately i'm seeing imperfections i've never noticed.

It's difficult to deal with emotionally, after all is said and done I can honestly say this girl is my best friend, and my everything...but a relationship can't survive on my hoping the spark will be reignited and all will be well.

She went on a mini vacay with her sister for a week, which is nice, because it gives me the space I wanted, without having to ask for it.

Any advice?

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work with this girl who always low key asks about me and my relationship status, opinion on girls in the office, etc etc, finally asked me to hang out last night. went out with a group, but hung with her most of the night. pretty early on in the night i find out she has a boyfriend, but he was only there for a good 15 min then bounced. i started talking to her about it and she mentioned that they are dating, but he wanted to see other people so hes kinda doing his own thing. does this mean shes trying to get a revenge plow in? i need to take advantage of this if so, shes bangin

Ask her out. If she says no, move on to other women. Really simple

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Kind of feel like i'm slowly falling out of love with my girlfriend, and in some ways I feel like i'm not even attracted to her anymore at times.

It's odd, kind of just cropped up out of the blue. I think she can tell, she told me she feels that i'm being distant and dismissive.

I don't want to make a rash decision, because she still is one of the most important people in my life, and she's stuck by/with me through some very trying times of mine. It's just kind of scary to me, because we are pretty much set on moving to another state together in the New Year. Maybe the feeling that i'm so committed caused this reaction.

In the entire time i've been with her, counting times when we've been on and off again, it's been like 3 years. In that time i've never once felt compelled to cheat. During breaks, or when we're off i've seen other woman, slept with them too (one of these woman became infamous due to a certain thread, i'm sure you all know) But yeah, when we're actually on and going, I have had no desire to be with other woman. I used to think she was godly in her beauty, but lately i'm seeing imperfections i've never noticed.

It's difficult to deal with emotionally, after all is said and done I can honestly say this girl is my best friend, and my everything...but a relationship can't survive on my hoping the spark will be reignited and all will be well.

She went on a mini vacay with her sister for a week, which is nice, because it gives me the space I wanted, without having to ask for it.

Any advice?

How old are you? Are you planning on marrying this women? I would say break up if you know she's not the one.

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Nice girl, full on personality and caring and whatnot that is irrationally attractive,

she tends to talk to everyone and I get along with her very well, we've become pretty close friends but i've developed feelings for her in the past one(?) month, it's definatly one way for now

She's beautiful in a not obvious way

very, very very well natured to a point where she isn't aware of it

falling...falling...fallen...

advice?

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How old are you? Are you planning on marrying this women? I would say break up if you know she's not the one.

I'm 21, turning 22 in august. She a year older, we started dating when I was 18 and she 19. She'll be 22 in July

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Nice girl, full on personality and caring and whatnot that is irrationally attractive,

she tends to talk to everyone and I get along with her very well, we've become pretty close friends but i've developed feelings for her in the past one(?) month, it's definatly one way for now

She's beautiful in a not obvious way

very, very very well natured to a point where she isn't aware of it

falling...falling...fallen...

advice?

Ask her out. If she says no, move on to other women

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I'm 21, turning 22 in august. She a year older, we started dating when I was 18 and she 19. She'll be 22 in July

You are only 21 man. I would drop it and experience the pleasures of other women.

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You are only 21 man. I would drop it and experience the pleasures of other women.

i meant to say that i'm 20, and will be 21 in August, she's 21, and will be 22 in July.

You are probably right though.

The actual act of departing is not going to be easy.

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No worries. The experience will make you stronger better person.

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The easy thing to do is almost always the wrong thing to do. You've been thru this with this girl before man, you know that your relationship has run it's course, so be a man and end it properly. You have a lifetime full of other women out there to experience, get to it.

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some of the previous page stories arefucking hilarious

how to get back into dating after a year? i find that as i venture out more by myself i have a better chance of attracting strangers, which is find adventurous because you never know who you can meet.

i don't have much friends so that limits the exposure by a lot. i just make very small talk with SA's most of the time when i'm out now whether it be at eatiries or shopping. who's dated an SA?

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5 F's

Find her

Feel her

Finger her

Fuck her

Forget her

I hooked with a sa forever ago, but it was a weird situation where I asked her out and she never mentioned a boyfriend until they broke up and I was the rebound. Steps 3-5 soon thereafter

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Yeah i feel like SA's would have a lot of 'baggage' ... they're probably only nice to me so they can sell me something =\

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Yeah I felt kinda weird asking her out for that reason, but I actually bought something then came back and asked her out again at a later date. She was really flirty the first time around and she did have a bf at the time but still gave me the digits. Ymmv

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Dude.

SAs are hired to sell product.

To be flirty and cute and sell shit to chumps.

They are no overly flirty because they are into you.

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gettoasty - I was in the same spot man, and found it's really about just getting back into the world in general, talking to everyone, and things start rolling. I didn't realize how much I neglected my social life / everyone else until we had split. Honestly man, get out there, get active, rally up friends, smile at people and it all comes together. Not that you have to lay game on every girl that walks by, but make an effort to engage people whenever possible. And I prob wouldn't overthink the S.A. thing too much, prob as much as any other job (except for stripper, don't ever go there...trust). They're just normal people outside of work, normal goals, normal desires, etc.

Dilemma mode, but I already know what to do... I was supposed to take my now-ex to Kauai next month, bought her her ticket and all. Now the only option is to get a credit...but they'll only put it in her name (or just cancel the ticket and lose the $). Trying to figure this out. I could take her still, we're on good terms, but I really don't want the drama or to stir feelings up, especially now that I feel like I've completely put it behind me. Fuck, might just have to eat the $ on this one.

Superadvice: Don't spend $ on girls you can't afford to lose. I shoulda made her pay for it and given her $ when we got back, wtf was I thinking.

Superpositive: Got a date tonight with a really dope girl I've been noticing for a while, and she's hyped to hang out. Way cute, tons in common, low drama...a bit of relief she's normal (so far).

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he's not talking about if they flirt with him while he's shopping (I hope, cause that's obvs), talking about after work, on their time, etc. Don't overthink the S.A. thing.

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Dude.

SAs are hired to sell product.

To be flirty and cute and sell shit to chumps.

They are no overly flirty because they are into you.

on the whole i agree with you, but this was obv a different situation. she was making fun of my tight sufu-approved pants and just poking fun in general. i was just the rebound, but there was something there

Superadvice: Don't spend $ on girls.

fyp

(cottdamn these new quotes are fucking terrible)

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Dude.

SAs are hired to sell product.

To be flirty and cute and sell shit to chumps.

They are no overly flirty because they are into you.

very true, i asked my coworkers and they said they working that commission.

gettoasty - I was in the same spot man, and found it's really about just getting back into the world in general, talking to everyone, and things start rolling. I didn't realize how much I neglected my social life / everyone else until we had split. Honestly man, get out there, get active, rally up friends, smile at people and it all comes together. Not that you have to lay game on every girl that walks by, but make an effort to engage people whenever possible. And I prob wouldn't overthink the S.A. thing too much, prob as much as any other job (except for stripper, don't ever go there...trust). They're just normal people outside of work, normal goals, normal desires, etc.

Dilemma mode, but I already know what to do... I was supposed to take my now-ex to Kauai next month, bought her her ticket and all. Now the only option is to get a credit...but they'll only put it in her name (or just cancel the ticket and lose the $). Trying to figure this out. I could take her still, we're on good terms, but I really don't want the drama or to stir feelings up, especially now that I feel like I've completely put it behind me. Fuck, might just have to eat the $ on this one.

Superadvice:. I shoulda made her pay for it and given her $ when we got back, wtf was I thinking.

Superpositive: Got a date tonight with a really dope girl I've been noticing for a while, and she's hyped to hang out. Way cute, tons in common, low drama...a bit of relief she's normal (so far).

#Superadvice makes you look like a chump i.e. low value

#superpositive: appropriate your exes id and take this new beezy, dilemma solved

on the whole i agree with you, but this was obv a different situation. she was making fun of my tight sufu-approved pants and just poking fun in general. i was just the rebound, but there was something there

They just want you to feel special, so when you come back you buy more. besides girls give out numbers all the time, doesnt mean anything. CHUMP

on the other hand call her and see what happens.

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They just want you to feel special, so when you come back you buy more. besides girls give out numbers all the time, doesnt mean anything. CHUMP

on the other hand call her and see what happens.

Exactly. Good luck asking her out!

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Out w a super dope girl, drunk, headed to the casino w Bearcousin an beezies. This night is working.

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Out w a super dope girl, drunk, headed to the casino w Bearcousin an beezies. This night is working.

Good luck w/ that!

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Thanks DJ! Noting your advice, hopefully I can close!!! How expensive was your couch btw, I wanna use that line and see if I can impress her.

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heres the situation, got this girl that im tryna get to know better and whatnot but we only see each other for very short periods of times and during that time theres multiple distractions like other people greeting us etc., shes cool and we go to the same college, im pretty sure i can build something from this.

the problem is that every time we talk the convo resets and little to no progress is made. sounds like we go thru the same stock dialogue (hows school, pass your finals etc). so i cant really read if shes into me and i cant really build the talking up to the point i can bag her number and talk more intimately. all my previous experience tells me that i shouldnt seem overly interested, but it think if i just start talking to her/texting without the proper buildup thats doing just that.

should i acknowledge the problem up front next time i approach her? i.e. "i feel like we always end up talking about the same stuff...blah blah" ask for number and take it from there? is that still too od?

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lol did you make an account just to ask?

at this point if you dont have some idea of her interests, you've failed.

just tell her you want to get her to better, get her digits, and grab drinks/coffee/etc.

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Thanks DJ! Noting your advice, hopefully I can close!!! How expensive was your couch btw, I wanna use that line and see if I can impress her.

More than your 401k.

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heres the situation, got this girl that im tryna get to know better and whatnot but we only see each other for very short periods of times and during that time theres multiple distractions like other people greeting us etc., shes cool and we go to the same college, im pretty sure i can build something from this.

the problem is that every time we talk the convo resets and little to no progress is made. sounds like we go thru the same stock dialogue (hows school, pass your finals etc). so i cant really read if shes into me and i cant really build the talking up to the point i can bag her number and talk more intimately. all my previous experience tells me that i shouldnt seem overly interested, but it think if i just start talking to her/texting without the proper buildup thats doing just that.

should i acknowledge the problem up front next time i approach her? i.e. "i feel like we always end up talking about the same stuff...blah blah" ask for number and take it from there? is that still too od?

Ask her out. If she says no, move on to other women

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