Djrajio Dating Thread/Advice Column

[BearCousin]

so thats why you were dancing so close to me i get it now

[AYIYI]

#8 man fuck that guy...

his advice is good though

[OkayOkay]

You were the replacement for the original replacement. I can't believe you actually invited me into your place afterwards...das just nasty bruh.

[BearCousin]

idk what to do.. this beezy i've hung out with a few times is super flirty with other dudes out at bars including this one d bag who she used to fuck... but all her friends tell me she's way into me and basically she's mine if i want her but it's like fuck.. if we're together and she goes out without me i'm a just be bummed knowing she's hanging out with a bunch of other dudes. it doesn't help that she's cute as fuck and gets approached like every 30 seconds. i think im just gonna keep her around for casual sex or somethin.. she's super cool and i could see myself dating her but idk if i could be in a relationship with some super flirty beezy or maybe i'm just overthinking it and being a pussy. what do y'all think?

[djrajio]

idk what to do.. this beezy i've hung out with a few times is super flirty with other dudes out at bars including this one d bag who she used to fuck... but all her friends tell me she's way into me and basically she's mine if i want her but it's like fuck.. if we're together and she goes out without me i'm a just be bummed knowing she's hanging out with a bunch of other dudes. it doesn't help that she's cute as fuck and gets approached like every 30 seconds. i think im just gonna keep her around for casual sex or somethin.. she's super cool and i could see myself dating her but idk if i could be in a relationship with some super flirty beezy or maybe i'm just overthinking it and being a pussy. what do y'all think?

I think you need to diversify your portfolio.

[dovo]

Have we given/do we give the pussy way too much power?

[OkayOkay]

I think the collective "we" thinks that the one pussy we're working with at the time is the only pussy in the world, and that skews how we act in relation to it.

[OkayOkay]

idk what to do.. this beezy i've hung out with a few times is super flirty with other dudes out at bars including this one d bag who she used to fuck... but all her friends tell me she's way into me and basically she's mine if i want her but it's like fuck.. if we're together and she goes out without me i'm a just be bummed knowing she's hanging out with a bunch of other dudes. it doesn't help that she's cute as fuck and gets approached like every 30 seconds. i think im just gonna keep her around for casual sex or somethin.. she's super cool and i could see myself dating her but idk if i could be in a relationship with some super flirty beezy or maybe i'm just overthinking it and being a pussy. what do y'all think?

I don't know her very well yet, but I can already tell you how it ends up. Follow djrajio's advice on this one. Bitches that crave attention will put that before anything, including you. Keep her as an option.

[bfan]

puttin the pussy on a pedestal

[lil brown brother]

yeah dude youre overthinking it .. just take it for what it is and be prepared to move on to the next beezy

Edited May 6, 2012 by supercrap

[BearCousin]

yeah that's what i'm thinkin.. thanks bros. for now im a just have a good time and have sex on the reg.. if she wants to get serious over time or w/e i guess we'll just have to wait and see how she acts later on when we're a little bit closer but for now im keepin my guard up.

[evisu 2000]

you sure you want to smash her tho it sounds like you already caught feelings

[OkayOkay]

I think I'm finally done fucking with crazy girls, and I know the term "crazy" in relation to women is extremely broad and highly applicable, but...obviously crazy ones, gonna just let those ones go from now on. I swear, it's like hard drugs...at first it's like "oh shit, this is amazing, it's so much fun"...then a little time goes by and it becomes "what the fuck happened and what did I get myself into?"

[jayrock]

They're all fucking crazy bru, just gotta find one you can deal with

[Stacks]

there's emotional (all women) and then there's crazy (some women)

this bitch at the bar got sloppy and was crying about this guy she had been "seeing" and how it wasn't working out the way she wanted it? they apparently hadn't had sex yet so we're talking very early stages here. he couldn't go to some event with her so next thing u know she's texting in between sobs "you don't respect me as a person etc. etc."

everyone was trying to convince her not to send crazytxts but i was all about it; at least that du knows what he's dealing with and can run while he can.

that same night another girl ate guacomole off the top of a nacho platter with her bare hands... it was gross

[boy better know]

Lol, post pics of your busted chicks, then reconsider calling all of us 'chumps'.

Again I have nothing to prove. But thanks for the call out.

Wow I feel like I'm in some weird bizarro world.

Went to Blacklist party last night and became friends w/ this girl who is trying to be the next Leah Dizon:

Ai Cherie.

http://ameblo.jp/ai-cherie/

http://aicherie.com/

Girl is straight up from Arcadia, LA and isn't Japanese at all.

[Lozinski]

Yeah I see you ''boy better know''!

(bump)

[dovo]

just found out this girl i had been crushing on/obsessing over wants ya boy. apparently, this idgaf shit really works. id treat her like she was the only girl in the in the universe at times and then like i didn't even know her the others. not because I'm a douche but because I'm a pretty shy guy (working on coming out of my shell) and would have to force myself to talk to her. I've never been so happy to be so shy.

ahahahaha.

[burgerking]

dovo dating club commandment #2: be a shy guy.

[dovo]

commandment #3, unless she's your wife and or you love her with all of your heart (it depends); relax, stop giving so many fucks, she's just a beezy. they come and go.

[OkayOkay]

Fully starting to understand/remember that.

[blm14]

oh bryan setting the new trend for 2012!

Quality over quantity, brah

[OkayOkay]

Uhhh, I'mma dispute that sometimes.

[mono14]

Rajio, how do you distinguish intuition and emotion? Whether for women or just life in general, I've been told many times to trust my gut, but I find that many times, that gut feeling I have is just my emotional reaction. How do you separate the two?

[djrajio]

I think it basically comes down to experience.

Once you fail and learn from your mistakes enough times your intuition becomes stronger and you start to gain more confidence and know when to cut your losses earlier rather than continue pursing.

It's very similar to trading on the market.

What often ruins guys is they fail to recognize when to cut their losses and are acting purely on emotion.

You'll never be able to separate the two otherwise you wouldn't be human and even the best have to fight w/ the constant struggle.

[djrajio]

I think that's why its so important to build a strong/core psychological framework, belief system, and self-identity as you develop yourself as a man.

In high-school/college you live in a micro-vacuum world where opportunities to discover yourself are constrained and watched with a critical eye.

But once you start working in the real world society allows to be free to chose whatever path you want. Be it healthy for your self-development/improvement or not.

For many men they try to embrace this liberation through their ego.

Yet, a poorly nurtured ego will become self-destructive.

And often manifests it-self through emotions of fear, pride, etc.

Learning to recognize your ego and learning how to humble your ego will do wonders in your self-improvement.

[xArtlessartx]

Spoken like a true gentleman. Reminds me of Wayne Dyer in a way.

[djrajio]

Holla at yo boy.

[rafael.agp]

djrajio, what's your take on dating co-workers?

no go? sure? depends?

girl i work with just got fired by a guy she went out with before being her boss.

dating people from work is an idea that raises a lot of red flags for me.

Edited May 18, 2012 by rafael.agp

[Young Bro]

^ i read a while ago that something ridiculous like 40% of marriages these days are people who met at work, so it definitely works for some. personally i'd try to avoid it though.