Djrajio Dating Thread/Advice Column

[ProfMonnitoff]

generous breast proportions

[howl]

(paraphrasing) howl, the shit you wrote on tumblr about your last tinder girl, was very fucking cringe inducing...take a step back and really think about how you present yourself to these women. you're acting like every single interaction is as important to them as it seems to be to you. this will never be true. you need to learn the appropriate level of contact.

 

tbh im not much for internet bullying, im sure howls a nice guy. and who hasn't scoped a chick's facebook profile or something after you got a name or whatever. i do think the thinking aloud and then relaying it to a complete stranger is a recipe for disaster. 

 

yo, point taken.

 

it was just me being the only way i do know how to be, a bit too straightforward/candid (right word?). i guess that if i had wanted to be that candid or sincere, i should have manned up and said something when i ran into her initially. it was probably wrong to gauge a probable reaction by imagining how i would take it if someone had said something similar to me irl or on tinder - of course, i'd be thrilled. so you're right, i can't level that same expectation.

 

no doubt, its something i have to grasp. 

[SSchadenfreude]

tbh im not much for internet bullying, im sure howls a nice guy. and who hasn't scoped a chick's facebook profile or something after you  got a name or whatever. i do think the thinking aloud and then relaying it to a complete stranger is a recipe for disaster. 

thanks alot, fycus!  the edit just  just screwed up the context for everyone and has thus devalued many other members' posts! 

[howl]

i'm guessing fycus had posted the blog post e0d9 had referred to?

[Fycus]

thanks alot, fycus!  the edit just  just screwed up the context for everyone and has thus devalued many other members' posts! 

I do feel like we're beating up on howl, if people really want to see it they can find it. 

 

Keeping on topic, as far as dating goes on these apps you can meet all kinds of people- surprisingly ive had some good luck on more of the budget-tier apps like ok cupid rather than bumble or tinder. Time to broaden my horizons and meet girls through friends I guess?

 

On that note, I'm constantly hearing people say "Id never actually date a person I met on an app, etc etc" to which I feel is a little odd. It's more respectable than a bar in certain contexts, you already vet out that you are attracted to eachother, and you can have some small chat up front to see if it clicks. That being said I've never seriously dated anybody through these avenues, so maybe I'm jaded...

[e0d9n0b5]

i dont wanna beat up on howl. hes a good looking guy, obviously smart. also good at football. howl you will have no problem dating whoever you want really, if you can just figure out how to talk to women. 

 

also, you're super young so its not surprising that you act like this, i definitely acted like a goof when i was that age. 

[CASSAVA PIECE]

nobody is even bullying him wtf

[SSchadenfreude]

i dont wanna beat up on howl. hes a good looking guy, obviously smart. also good at football. howl you will have no problem dating whoever you want really, if you can just figure out how to talk to women. 

 

also, you're super young so its not surprising that you act like this, i definitely acted like a goof when i was that age. 

yeah i think u were a fuckin dork, but sufu really helped u.lulz

[SSchadenfreude]

nobody is even bullying him wtf

yeah word aint nobody pickin on howl.  we just playin

 

agree with ed tho.  i know alota people consciously or unconsciously talk diff online than irl, but something tells me that howl write and talk funny.  if u wanna stunt for some literary or philosophy major, then yeah maybe talking like u smart or something is all good.  for random hook ups i dont think it necessary.  infact its often detrimental.  they just think yr a weirdo.

 

even fashion bzs.  dont talk to them like you're at an art exhibit.  dont talk to them like ur on some fashion shit.  i'm sure they've heard it all b4 or read it online.  when i am at fashion show and wanna talk to bitch i just ask them if they wanna grab a hotdog or do coke.  

[e0d9n0b5]

yeah i think u were a fuckin dork, but sufu really helped u.lulz

true, i am the sufu success story archetype. but i was always getting it in, don't be mistaken. 

[gettoasty]

hey howl, are you in school?

 

i found that when i became less calculated it actually worked in my favor. this occurred during university when i was around people i was comfortable with and alcohol also helped. 

 

i remember 15 years ago or so when Yahoo! chat rooms were quite prevalent. I use to get on the mic in chat rooms and blast music or do some karaoke. i did voice chat and spoke mandarin to this chick at school frequently on aim, but between the pauses i still had time to think about what to type or catch my breath since my mandarin not so good. i have not used any of the web services or apps available nowadays but i imagine the pace is much faster. you should try responding with your first reaction but an honest one rather than dote on an "idea" then be filled with regret after you send the message. you may find that you'll come off as sincere, to the point, and if you're caught off guard relative to being in the middle of something at least you respond back and say 'hey, was grabbing something to bite in the kitchen, what's up?' without feeling like you are telling a white lie. that is a bad example but my point is when you get back to the chick you're talking to you will have a genuine reason why you texts suddenly stopped especially during a "heated exchange". 

 

people like to know that you are keeping yourself busy.

 

 

edit:

my point was also response to conquerors' post. you still young, it's all good. the EB games comment made me laugh inside.  

Edited March 25, 2016 by gettoasty

[BRICK DOM]

man smh

[SSchadenfreude]

howl,

u prolly shouldnt take advice (bout d8ing/girls in gen) from gettoasty cos hes a panties-sniffing cherry boy

Edited March 25, 2016 by SSchadenfreude

[gettoasty]

^ listen to this guy

[po_boy_fuuma_hatesbargerz]

yeah word aint nobody pickin on howl.  we just playin

 

agree with ed tho.  i know alota people consciously or unconsciously talk diff online than irl, but something tells me that howl write and talk funny.  if u wanna stunt for some literary or philosophy major, then yeah maybe talking like u smart or something is all good.  for random hook ups i dont think it necessary.  infact its often detrimental.  they just think yr a weirdo.

 

even fashion bzs.  dont talk to them like you're at an art exhibit.  dont talk to them like ur on some fashion shit.  i'm sure they've heard it all b4 or read it online.  when i am at fashion show and wanna talk to bitch i just TALK TO THEM LIKE A NORMAL HUMAN BEING

 

honestly, i just think howl takes himself too seriously/self-consciously.

 not everbody cares about heidigger or existential philosophy, and even if they did, talking about it all the goddamn time is boring.

 loosen up, wear some normal shit (read cheap and won't stand out) and go skateboarding.

 cheep's a good example of one of the few sufuers who i could probably crack a beer with*.

Edited March 26, 2016 by po_boy_fuuma_hatesbürgerz

[SSchadenfreude]

the concept "tpo." was a conceived  post war japan by the real jap fashion godfather.  when japan was a "fashionless" nation.  the acronym stands for time, place and occasion.

 

howl, in yr case i think applying this to not only what you wear, but what comes out of yr mouth would be a good idea

[SSchadenfreude]

 

 cheep's a good example of one of the few sufuers who i could probably crack a beer with*.

he tries so hard 2 b nonchalant that often times he's not.

[ProfMonnitoff]

the concept "tpo." was a conceived  post war japan by the real jap fashion godfather.  when japan was a "fashionless" nation.  the acronym stands for time, place and occasion.

 

howl, in yr case i think applying this to not only what you wear, but what comes out of yr mouth would be a good idea

 

 

 

tru and good point but on the other hand not sure about taking his advice bc might be slippery slope to dressing ivy style

[SSchadenfreude]

tru and good point but on the other hand not sure about taking his advice bc might be slippery slope to dressing ivy style

tpo is actually still utilized today in modern japan.  so it does not just apply to ivy

[david10d]

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[lerrr]

yo, were there posts removed or did ya boi just quintuple post

[mr.invincible]

i feel like chinese guys get the short end of the stick....

[BRICK DOM]

fuck new page nvm then

Edited March 30, 2016 by BRICK DOM

[Fycus]

i feel like chinese guys get the short end of the stick....

I dont think thats universally true, if you're good looking you're good looking and can pull girls no matter what. i did notice at dinner the other night in shanghai the staggering amount of western men with local girls- would probably be pretty infuriating to be on the other side of the fence but hey that's life...

[StrangeLove]

Plenty of Chinese people get girls you just gotta be semi gangsta/hood/masculine/bro n not be a dork there are girls into dorks just not many of em are. This applies to Asian ppl aswell

[Fuuma]

honestly, i just think howl takes himself too seriously/self-consciously.

 not everbody cares about heidigger or existential philosophy, and even if they did, talking about it all the goddamn time is boring.

 loosen up, wear some normal shit (read cheap and won't stand out) and go skateboarding.

 cheep's a good example of one of the few sufuers who i could probably crack a beer with*.

I care about Heidegger, fuck you! Some of my finest moments are explaining Heidegger completely drunk to randoms. Probably not some of their finest moments though...

If you can't talk about some #deepartshit to get the convo going you'll have to avoid fashionable coke parties forever cause you'll be talking about yourself and the next few days will be spent cringing about the stupid shit you said. If you made the link between Turin's horse and Deleuze's movement-image you'll be A+ok and still have got some #fuumaizthefunsmart.

[whitney]

Plenty of Chinese people get girls you just gotta be semi gangsta/hood/masculine/bro n not be a dork there are girls into dorks just not many of em are. This applies to Asian ppl aswell

I like dorks, as long as they're cute ones.

Actually I seem to have a thing for people who are confident but in a humbling way. There's something super attractive about someone whose so sure of themselves, but at the same time isn't about putting themselves above you, while excluding a quiet elegance at times. And smile, awesome smile and can laugh at themselves.

I care about Heidegger, fuck you! Some of my finest moments are explaining Heidegger completely drunk to randoms. Probably not some of their finest moments though...

If you can't talk about some #deepartshit to get the convo going you'll have to avoid fashionable coke parties forever cause you'll be talking about yourself and the next few days will be spent cringing about the stupid shit you said. If you made the link between Turin's horse and Deleuze's movement-image you'll be A+ok and still have got some #fuumaizthefunsmart.

Deep shit, deep art shit, the world we live in today, philosophy...pretty much is ace.

The point is not to be boring. Be able to teach her something. Be able to connect on a deeper level. Even if it's a passing bang. Rarely does one get with someone initially and thinks, "this is forever".

[exhaust fumes]

Anyone who starts dropping Capitalism and Schizophrenia at a "fashionable coke party" needs to go back to their grad school tenure position and writhe around in their own satisfaction with their real friends, books.

Edited April 27, 2016 by exhaust fumes

[Fuuma]

Anyone who starts dropping Capitalism and Schizophrenia at a "fashionable coke party" needs to go back to their grad school tenure position and writhe around in their own satisfaction with their real friends, books.

That's why you mix it with movie or other more arty or accessible stuff. You do a Zizek.

 

Lacanians do it better.

Edited April 27, 2016 by Fuuma

[CASSAVA PIECE]