Djrajio Dating Thread/Advice Column

[phen3N]

^ i think you realized your mistake already.

And are you sure it wasn't to study? or when you say girl do you mean "man"?

nah it was at a bar, definitely not to study.

and because I'm not an econ major, what does L represent?

[bhoknows]

Assets = Liabilities + Owner's Equity

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[TTM]

loving this econ discussion

[Leeacto]

It's accounting

and I'm not sure if it's different from one nation to the next, but I always learned it as SE (Stockholders' Equity)

[ojjairus]

i didn't pass acct =/

Is there any possibility to pursue ex-interest after its been a couple years. Of course back then i fcked up. But shes giving me good vibes after not talking/hangin for 2 years and i feel confident with the new knowledge i posses.

Im just unsure how i should change my "game" for this.

Does anyone have any "transformation" stories of getting old interests.

[Jimbo69]

How i use derivatives in my game?

[azif]

Is it actually an efficient market. There are transaction costs and information isn't public and frictionless

are derrivatives hookers?

[Kev07]

yo ex's are exs for a reason, dont degrade yourself to going back to something that didnt work out

not always true, but for the most part, if it's been 2 years its kinda eh

[djrajio]

are derrivatives hookers?

I think that's what you call junk bonds.

[phen3N]

he wasn't talking about an ex-gf, he said ex-interest. in my opinion, if you haven't talked at all in 2 years, you have a good chance since you're a much different person now

[ojjairus]

Yea i made the mistake of telling her how i feel in highschool, out of nowhere she asks me to take a class with her, i run my game and she initiates slight kino.

I didn't even care about her up into we hung out after class for the first time, now im back at having feelings for her the way i did in hs.

I most likely won't see her after this semester, but if i fail i will have to see her two times a week. grr. i will reevaluate with a clear head later.

[azif]

I think that's what you call junk bonds.

But they give a certain payoff

or is date rape the use of derrivatives

I havent traded actively in 4 years

[Kev07]

^ just stop

and my bad i read it wrong, if it's an ex interest go for it broseidon

[nlim3482]

stop it with the the finance talk, most you guys have no idea what you are talking about

[Leeacto]

I do. But I'll quit it.

As for ex interest,

It's high school, dude. after a few yrs, you're forgiven for pretty much anyting you did in HS. Go after that. And if it doesn't work out, you already said she's gone at Sem. Just don't do that "what I think about you" thing since you already know that doesn't work.

[djrajio]

I'm really tired of hearing all these what if's.

Can I get some reports on successes from you chumps!?

Have any of you actually put into action anything I've drilled into your chinky heads?

Let me know the knowledge I'm blessing you with isn't for nothing...

[IM SOLE CRAZY]

Fucking christ. Spent the past two days diligently reading this damn thread. Wish I looked at it sooner.

So...

Djrajio.

Need some quick help.

So just recently ended things with my ex. I liked her a ton, yada yada, no sex because shes a virgin and wanted to wait etc. So I had pent up carnal urges that hadda be released.

So I go out to parties, get a bunch of numbers, girls hit on me in class, ask for my number etc. Play it pretty chill with a few of them. But idk, they seemed like they wanted something serious and I wasnt looking for that.

Then like, two weekends ago, met this girl at a party. Some guy was all on her, but she wanted to talk to me so I chatted it up. Got her number, and whatever. Stole her from that dude. Felt good about myself.

Talked during the week, and that thursday she came over my house and I let all my fucking sexual frustration out. Damn. Wanted to dead her but then I wanted to see how things would go.

So she kept asking me to hang out, and sleep over. So I followed through.

We hung out on campus a bunch. Shes a freshie, I'm a junior.

She holds my hand around campus, introduces me to all her friends as if I'm her bf, etc.

Now, my friends see it and thing is we arent official so I blow it off, try to not hold her hand etc. She gets offended. But whatever, mad people get the inclination I'm with another girl

(I have this fucking terrible reputation of always having girls. Really really sucks, kills my chances of being with other girls etc.)

Anyway, as I spend more time with the beezy I get fucking attached again (gg). So now shit is over for me. I get all weak and feeble and shit. Shes a cool girl, and I enjoy her company.

So like, this past weekend she spent thur/fri/sat night at my house. I start doing shit I'd do for normal gfs, like sweet shit, breakfast in bed, taking her out to eat regularly, etc.

Thing is she seemed to like it. "Oh I love it when you text me alot, I love it how you surprised me outside my class, I love the rose you gave to me, I love how you hold me", all that bullshit.

Then sunday night she says "oh ima stay at my dorm." Monday we didnt chill, nor did we any other day and today is thursday. So Its apparent at this point she doesnt like me any more, I try talking to her and her responses are such bullshit.

So today she was supposed to come over but she was too tired, then I ask her what shes doing at like, 9, and shes at the gym. So now I say

"alright I get it, idk what I did wrong, but I see I messed up, peace"

real dumb on my part, but then she says "are you mad at me...?"

me - "no not at all"

her - "you seem it"

me - "nah its whatever"

her - "yeah I've been thinking about things"

me - "tell me"

her - "well, youve been clingy, and I thought we discussed this early on. maybe you can change, idk"

of course I see how I was "clingy" by reciprocating the feelings she presented. I always like to one up people that way. She tells me she likes me a lot, I tell her I like her alot, even if its bs. Fuck I wish I read this thread earlier. I would say its common sense to not make moves that way, but it didnt mess with my old relationships.

me - "yeah thats true, well I'll try to change"

her - "okay thats good, we good now, wanna party tomorrow night?"

me - "sure"

End of convo.

Now I don't know what to do. She kind of played me hard this past week, which is mostly my fault, and at this point I'd like to know what to do.

[djrajio]

you got clingy.

end of story.

move on.

[IM SOLE CRAZY]

Damn. Thats it? No cool advice or anything?

[Fuuma]

Errr, you got the result you wanted, she's off your back but still in ok terms. Now go get some other girls like you wanted. Why you gotta make things so complicated?

[Tyro1]

hahaha, IM SOLE CRAZY is like an example for all of the other people reading this thread and not paying attention.

[nlim3482]

Thing is she seemed to like it. "Oh I love it when you text me alot, I love it how you surprised me outside my class, I love the rose you gave to me, I love how you hold me", all that bullshit.

Why are you doing these things for her when you say its bullshit and pretend you don't care? Mistake #1 - you're playing into her hands, doing things for her that you think she would like and doing relationship stuff after knowing her for what one week. She has the upper hand now, no wonder she thinks you are clingy. Like Djrajio has emphasised many times in this thread, you have to maintain a sense of mystery about personality, don't go out of your way to please a women. If she likes you, she will initiate it. Don't contact her for now.

[phen3N]

i have this problem where girls are attracted to me and i'm attracted to them, but i don't know what to do from there. basically i dont know how to flirt or make a move

[nlim3482]

how do you know they are attracted to you?

[djrajio]

Damn. Thats it? No cool advice or anything?

Be honest with yourself.

The only reason you want to make things right w/ this girl is because your EGO got bruised.

Like the others have said, if you aren't so into her, what does it matter?

Just move on.

[djrajio]

i have this problem where girls are attracted to me and i'm attracted to them, but i don't know what to do from there. basically i dont know how to flirt or make a move

Have you not learned anything from the last 100 or so pages in this thread?!

Stop giving us this bullshit: You know how to flirt / make a move you are just afraid of FAILURE.

Man up.

[lawless]

Can I get some reports on successes from you chumps!?

follow up from last weeks post:

we ended up fucking and agreed to keep it casual on account of distance. thanks

[Kev07]

I'm really tired of hearing all these what if's.

Can I get some reports on successes from you chumps!?

Have any of you actually put into action anything I've drilled into your chinky heads?

Let me know the knowledge I'm blessing you with isn't for nothing...

ayo DJraj you inspired to post up my progress with my top priority girl im workin on (i got about 2 others, one digs me, the other one is really just whatevs), so throw some heads up and critiques my way.

LONG AND DETAILED YO, I'm not saying i'm good with girls, cause i'm not, but this is one of my better experiences and I threw up all the small little details cause it would be generic without it, hopefully you can get something out of what I did right and dont repeat what I did wrong

Everything just works out really well with this girl, especially the social proofing.

All began when I met her a week ago through my boy. I end up sitting next to her and cracking some really good jokes and get her laughing, I excuse myself from dinner early to go for a swim. Later that night I get an add from her on FB

Next time I see her (a few days) I had just met this girl in class that sat next to me (10 minutes into meeting her she says i'm really cocky, significance of this later). We're walkin out of class and we bump into my priority girl, who coincidentally knows this girl (social proof). We chat for a bit and girl that i met mentions that I'm really cocky and i cut her off with a "yo dont listen to her" while putting my hand in front of her mouth, and my priority girl jumps in and says something that i don't remember, but i end up pulling the face in front of her mouth too and tease them about teaming up on me. She mentions something about a lounge that coming friday and asks if i want to go, I think about it for a sec and i just say "Call me" which causes girl I just met to say "SEE he's so cocky!" and priority girl responds with "actually i gotta admit that was pretty smooth", I didn't think it was that smooth but whatevs. I leave with girl i just met.

Fast forward to the thursday before we hit up that lounge, I decided to give her my # through message. She texts me later that night with "hey kpop king!(we talked about kpop music when i first met her), now you have my #, call me for lunch/dinner sometime!" I responded with "mmm I take girls out to dinner, not lunch" she says something like "oh so you're a traditional type... well im very untraditional... breakfast it is!" <-- I laughed lols

Day of the lounge, she calls me while I'm playing basketball and I decide to not go because she called me 10 minutes before they were leaving and I was sweaty as shit (hong kong humidity concept). and I could go out later that night anyways, she asks "why" when I said i'll pass, so I took it as a good sign, later that night I was drunk, which is probably why I had a good feeling about calling her at 3am, she didn't pick up but called me back, also drunk and i could have sworn she said "sup cutie"

Bunch of shit happens in between this and the next real "progress" most of it included great social proofing, most notably when I walked into the dining area with 8 girls and half of them ordered the same thing as me when I bumped into her. Also went to a little get together at my boy's pad, where I just had fun and didn't give her too much attention the whole night until about 1:30am and i talked to her more. We were looking through my camera and there was this one horrid picture of her and the whole "omg delete it dont tag dont upload to FB blah blah" and when I got back to my pad I accidentally deleted it (fail). Sometime during this night the topic of me making out with some chick at the club came up, I play it off indifferently.

Confusion point:

A few texts back and forth lead to me inviting her out to "get breakfast" at 10:30pm (reference to the text about her and the "breakfast it is!" text) where we got barged in by my whole crew, which included one of my friends who likes her but got friendcarded, so i decided to make my exit and when the attention wasnt on us, i mouthed to her if she'd like to go check out the beach( we got a little shore on campus) cause i remember she said she hadn't been there before, so we slip away. At the beach, she tells me that she thinks i'm a Player (total bullshit my game is crap), and literally starts pointing out everything i do that is "player-like" including the way i sit, stand, talk, make out with girls in clubs, etc etc. I deny it and she tries to get me to open up the whole night, but i just tease her and just keep talking. all in all, we ended up chillen for about 4 hours on the beach (mind you I was not spilling out my heart/past and all that gay shit, at least I don't think I was), and finally i decided i'd tell her one secret. she looked at me expectantly and I just looked at her back until she turned away and i kissed her on the cheek, got up and told her the secret (just that i've never had a long term relationship) and told her lets go. she stays seated and im just lookin at her and then she gets up and we just keep talking like nothing happened no awkwardness, but also no signs of interest, which trips me out a bit. we end up talking at the top of the stairs of the beach for another while before i finally cut out.

Success point: I was buzzin'/drunk most of this night so I don't remember exactly what order everything happened

Next day after the beach incident I go to my friend's beer pong kickback in her dorm room. I decided not to call and invite her until I got there (I was running late cause of laundry), but turns out she was already there when i showed up. I was a little indifferent at the beginning, but we played beerpong and i was on fire, she mentions how I live up to my word, which I mentioned that I rock at beer pong. Eventually she was ALL over me, holding my arm, grabbin(not slappin, like GRABBING) my ass, sitting on my lap etc etc during our second game of beer pong, and just being very close and friendly in general. After that game of beer pong, she lays down on my friend's bed so I ask her if shes alright and if she's not I would take her back. She said she was okay and lied back down so that was obviously bullshit, so I carry her back to her room along with 2 of my friends (one of them the guy that likes her) they were opening the doors for me. Get to her room and I lay her down and she's still being very touchy feely. She had a flight to catch in the afternoon so my 2 friends were trying to find an alarm to set, and she mouthed something to me, I didnt hear so I leaned in and she whispered that I better be back when she wakes up. I just look at her and lifted her chin and kissed her, when I pulled away she was smiling but I kept it short and sweet since my 2 friends were in there. We leave.

Fast forward to next morning, I woke up at 730am (wtf :confused:), and after uploading pictures on fb I decided that I would oblige her request to be back when she wakes up. I head over to her room and knock on her door, there was no response so I opened it and woke her up, at this point I have no idea what she remembers from last night. I tease her a bit about her drooling and how she needs to pack for her flight and she asks me to lay down with her so I do. She just woke up, so she had mad morning breath so we just kinda cuddled a bit and talked, told her a lot about what happened last night, but left out the kiss part. Eventually she gets up to shower and when she comes back (I think I missed a few signs here) she was in her towel, but she borrowed my sandals to shower and I hella had to go take a piss, so right when she comes in shes just in a towel and I'm like yo gimme my sandals I gotta go take a piss, so i bust my ass to the bathroom. when I come back she's wearing this one piece long hoodie thing, and looking back, I should have complemented that i liked it cause she didnt have shorts under it. but I missed my chance and just said something like are you gonna go like that and she put on shorts:rolleyes:. So then I tell her some more things about the night before while I get closer and i lifted her chin, and she asked me if there was anything else she forgot to which I kissed her and asked did you remember that? with a smile. she flips out a bit and asked if we did anything else, I said no. We then walked to get breakfast and I see her off at the bus stop, kissed her and slapped her on the ass goodbye cause she just went on a weekend vacation, will be back this Sunday.

I'm thinking about buying her a snickers bar next time I see her, probably Sunday but who knows how that's gonna go down cause her phone broke, she mentioned once that her favorite candy is snickers and girls get wet when you remember small insignificant things like that.

thoughts appreciated, if you actually read through that whole thing I hope you enjoyed it

[Fuuma]

I'm new to this thread but it provides endless entertainment. WTF is "social proofing"? I hope that's not another negger term, I hate neggers!

[mrip]

thats gotta be one of the worst posts ive read on sufu

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