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  1. ^^^similar idea: http://www.ted.com/talks/sasha_dichter.html

    a couple other thoughts:

    1. money cant buy lasting happiness, but it sure as shit can buy temporary pleasure.

    2. not having money adds a lot of stress and anxiety to one's life which leads to unhappiness

    3. discussion on a recent world wide gallop poll on happiness and the effect money has on it:

    http://businessjourn...ve-and-75k.aspx

    http://www.washingto...0070100039.html

    http://www.scienceda...00701072652.htm

    4. excerpts from a speech given by writer Charles Wheelan to the dartmouth graduating class of 2011: http://www.dartmouth...11/wheelan.html

    im gonna boil some of his main points on happiness down to these...check the spoiler if you would like a longer read.

    a. one of the single factors with the highest correlation with happiness is having meaningful and lasting relationships with other human beings (family, friends, organizations, social movements, ect).

    b. leading a life of purpose (however you define it) is also strongly correlated with happiness

    c. economists have quantified having a happy and successful marriage as having an impact on happiness equivalent to earning an extra $100,000 a year. also, if both spouses have an income then economic prosperity is much easier to attain (duh) so marry someone smarter than you.

    d. if you want to do cool shit and be successful no doubt youve gotta work hard, but nothing tomorrow is ever promised today. if you were to get hit by a bus tomorrow, would you regret the way you spend your life (how much you work/what you do for work)? on the flip side if you dont get hit by a bus tomorrow, will you be happy with where your current life path is leading you in 10-20-30 years?

    Researchers are now studying happiness. They are literally asking, “What makes us enjoy life?†What we know—what comes up significant in every study of well-being using every possible methodology—is that one of the most important causal factors associated with happiness and well-being is your meaningful connections with other human beings: family, friends, organizations, neighbors, social movements. In other words, the people around you today.

    One of our most intriguing sources of data is the Harvard Study of Adult Development. Beginning in 1937, this study followed Harvard sophomores for 70 years: through graduation, and marriages, and careers, and illness, and in some cases death. The value of this kind of longitudinal study is that you can follow the same people over decades and make meaningful inferences about what behaviors in life are associated with what outcomes, in terms of health, career success, coping with adversity, and overall sense of well-being...When the director of the study was asked what he has learned from decades of data on the Harvard students, he replied, “That the only thing that really matters in life are your relationships to other people.â€

    The same pattern keeps coming up.

    You may have seen a reference to a recent study which found that joining a group that meets just once a month has the same effect on your sense of well-being as doubling your income.

    ........

    Marry someone smarter than you are.

    This was of the smartest things I ever did. I bring this up for three reasons. First, for all the controversy over marriage lately, there has been virtually no public discussion of the role that marriage plays in economic success...highly educated people are likely to marry each other, as are poorly-educated people. The result magnifies many of our underlying social trends, including income inequality.

    To make it much more personal...the benefit of marrying my Phi Beta Kappa classmate, whom I met at orientation freshman week, is not merely that she is fun and beautiful, but that it’s like having another economic oar in the water. When I was getting a PhD, she was working. When she wanted to start a software company, I had a steady income. When I wanted to take a year off to write books, she had a steady income...I’m telling you that you’re getting a professional teammate for life. So pick wisely.

    Now the second reason I bring this subject up is that a healthy marriage will make you… Yes, happy! We’ve got research on this, too. In fact, the economists even think they can quantify it. In terms of happiness and well-being, a healthy marriage is the equivalent of earning an extra $100,000 a year.

    ........

    If you want to do great things in a decade or two, you need to grind away now. You need to do things that you would prefer not to do, to spend time on things that you don’t particularly enjoy. Frankly, that’s an important part of your 20s...But you can’t lose sight of the fact that there are no guarantees in life. If you grind away miserably to become the CEO, no one can promise you that it will work out that way, or that the sacrifice will be worth it even if it does. On the other hand, if you spend most of your time skateboarding with friends and playing video games, I can pretty much assure you that your professional accomplishments will be limited.

    You have to navigate that trade-off. On this point, I do have advice, which is to take joy in the journey, rather than building your life around how good you expect the view to be when you get to the top. Again, by the way, the happiness research is clear. Most people overstate how much they will enjoy that next promotion and the stuff it can buy—because we get used to them so quickly.

    Academics like to formalize things, so I propose to you the “hit by a bus†rule. Would I regret doing this, spending my life this way, if I were to get hit by a bus next week, or next year? Is the journey still worthwhile if the mountain turns out to be enshrouded in fog at the top?

    Of course, there is an important corollary: What if I don’t get “hit by a bus� Does this path lead to a life that I will be pleased with and proud of in 10 or 20 years? There are plenty of things you can do that will comfortably pass both of those tests. One of my favorite assignments for the Dartmouth Alumni Magazine was writing a piece on Paul Tsongas, Class of 1962, who ran for president as a Democrat in 1992. Tsongas was the first declared candidate against George H. W. Bush, who had an approval rating of 91 percent at the time...I was traveling with Tsongas, and at one point I asked, “Do you really think you can win?†He said, “I don’t have to. I just have to run a race that my grandchildren will be proud of.†He did.

  2. yo denim bros, i recently incurred a serious crotch blow out on my beloved samurai 710's. ( :( )

    does anyone know any good repair services? i just emailed BiG (where i purchased the jeans) but i was wondering if there are any other alternatives to consider. have any of you used BiG's repair services before? was it expensive/is there a cheaper or better alternative?

    anyone have experience with:

    http://www.schaeffersgarmenthotel.com/#!__page-3

    or

    http://denimtherapy.com/

  3. recently quit smoking weed and i have been having the most strange and vivid dreams lately.

    last night i went to a saint louis blues game with two kids i knew in high school - who are very conservative - where we talked politics and i defended my choice to vote for obama. unfortunately i had to leave after the first period though because i had a school assignment/meeting with a teacher i had forgotten. after leaving the game i met my teacher/tutor/whatever in a TINY room with a ~3ft ceiling where we studied flashcards until i noticed the futon/cushion we were sitting on actually multiple large bags of weed (like pounds) wrapped in aluminum foil...I also vaguely remember being late for hockey practice and not getting a chance to shower afterwards before going to work on a film starring my ex, her new squeeze, and I with a crew of 5-10 people (including myself) writing/producing/filming.

  4. thanks for the advice okayokay and djrajio. i know time heals all wounds and im doing a lot better now than i was a couple weeks ago. definitely past the blubbering/emotional wreck phase. great words of advice: always delete ex's #'s and contact info because you know you'll be tempted to call/text them when drunk or feeling lonely or w/e (learned this the hard way a long time ago).

    I dont usually block ex's on fb, but in this case i had to block her to keep myself from looking at her profile and feeling depressed/sorry for myself. I like your idea of a little russian woman sweeping unpleasant thoughts away okayokay, ima come up with my own twist on that. im at the point now where im pretty indifferent to the whole situation in general, but I still get hit with waves of regret/sadness pretty regularly. i know there is no going back though, im just trying to stay positive and move forward.

    as for my friend who is now dating her: i really dont know how to handle that shit. where im at right now, i know it would be difficult for me to see them together. i would be equally likely to try to pick a fight with him as i would be to just leave and remove myself from the the situation. im not a vindictive person and i want them both to be happy...but if being around them being happy together makes me sad, then fuck it im not having it. luckily i havent had to deal with this awkwardness yet because they we all live a couple hours away from each other. but we all have a lot of mutual friends so i know it will come up eventually.

    ive fucked a couple other girls but they were just horny/lonely slams, and with 1 exception (girl who gives great head) they have been 1 night stands. like djrajio said, i havent found the right one to pique my interest yet. shit just takes time i guess.

    anyway, thanks all for taking the time to respond. it feels good to vent about it. ive talked to some of my close friends about it, but its easier to think logically/objectively and type about it than it is to discuss it in person.

    edit: video semi-related

  5. recently i let my guard down and started to really care for this woman i was hooking up with. long story short: i recognized how strongly i was starting to feel about her and backed off a bit, she realized i was backing off and moved on to someone else. thing is this "someone else" was a friend of mine and she started dating him immediately after breaking it off with me. this was in early march and ive fucked other girls since but i just cant stop thinking about this woman...she really had just about everything i look for in a woman (she liked watching top gear with me for fuck sake) and is just a really smart/funny/beautiful person in general. as i got to know her more and more i realized she was serious wifey material and it kinda freaked me out, hence me backing off from the relationship. i dont blame her for moving on, but it was pretty painful that it was with a kid i used to consider a friend (she told me they had "a bunch of history together" which i never knew - fuck that shit). this is uncharted territory for me personally. ive initiated break ups before, but never really been dropped by a girl i still cared a great deal for like this.

    any advice on how to move on after being hurt other than cliche "plenty of fish in the sea" type shit? ive been hitting the gym hard lately, hanging with friends a lot, and seeing other chicks but i just cant seem to shake this one girl.

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